help! kinda long, but just need some insight
ok ... i had posted before about having one bm who isn't contributing to things, and is complaining about what she has done.
today i got an angry voicemail from her saying she never got invitations for anything, she doesn't know what is when, she doesn't know why i'm upset she isn't coming to my shower OR RD, and then she started bad mouthing my other bm's.
for one,i had asked, along w/ my MOH, numerous times for her new address and never got an answer back. so i sent her RD invite to another one of my bm's who lives close to her. i also told all my girls, from the start, i ran out of invitations for the wedding and it was too expensive to order more.
her excuse for not coming to events was that she started new job (in april) and couldn't have time off. i can understand this as some places are not too lenient w/ time off. i can excuse the shower, but not the rd. and best of all, she CAN make it to the bach party!!! of course she can!!
she then started talking bad about my other girls, how everything is 'disorganized' and she doesn't know 'how it will all come together'. i'm very upset over this b/c i know what my other bm's have been doing ... working their asses off!!!
she followed up my voicemail w/ an email to the rest of the bm's (sans me) stating she isn't sure if 'she's even a part of the wedding', and a few other choice words for everyone.
so ... i wrote her back saying 'if she didn't feel apart of everything, maybe she shouldn't be apart of it'. i went over all her concerns she had left me in her voicemail, explained the situations, apologized for some, but all in all, i dont want the drama and negative surroundings. my fh was extremely mad saying this is the last thing i should ahve to worry about. but i left the email to her saying it was up to her whether she wantes to be in our BP or not.
was this wrong? should I not have 'jumped the gun'? i'm just so tired of her non stop complaining right from the start.
please ... tell me i'm doing the right thing!!!![]()
today i got an angry voicemail from her saying she never got invitations for anything, she doesn't know what is when, she doesn't know why i'm upset she isn't coming to my shower OR RD, and then she started bad mouthing my other bm's.
for one,i had asked, along w/ my MOH, numerous times for her new address and never got an answer back. so i sent her RD invite to another one of my bm's who lives close to her. i also told all my girls, from the start, i ran out of invitations for the wedding and it was too expensive to order more.
her excuse for not coming to events was that she started new job (in april) and couldn't have time off. i can understand this as some places are not too lenient w/ time off. i can excuse the shower, but not the rd. and best of all, she CAN make it to the bach party!!! of course she can!!
she then started talking bad about my other girls, how everything is 'disorganized' and she doesn't know 'how it will all come together'. i'm very upset over this b/c i know what my other bm's have been doing ... working their asses off!!!
she followed up my voicemail w/ an email to the rest of the bm's (sans me) stating she isn't sure if 'she's even a part of the wedding', and a few other choice words for everyone.
so ... i wrote her back saying 'if she didn't feel apart of everything, maybe she shouldn't be apart of it'. i went over all her concerns she had left me in her voicemail, explained the situations, apologized for some, but all in all, i dont want the drama and negative surroundings. my fh was extremely mad saying this is the last thing i should ahve to worry about. but i left the email to her saying it was up to her whether she wantes to be in our BP or not.
was this wrong? should I not have 'jumped the gun'? i'm just so tired of her non stop complaining right from the start.
please ... tell me i'm doing the right thing!!!
