help me make a hard and stressful decision, PLEASE

FutureCap Posted: Feb 08, 2010 03:22 PM

help me make a hard and stressful decision, PLEASE

I have mentioned it before on here, but I stopped using my cousin as my hairdresser cause her hours were hard, it in queens and i am not, and i started getting frustrated that she was always cancelling on me for every little reason. It was super annoying because i would have to arrange to leave work early to go there cause she only works a few days and then she would cancel the day of.

sooo .... in Sepetmber i found someone i love close to home for my cuts and highlight (cousin was not happy). I promised her I would still have her do my hair for my wedding.

Fast forward to 2 weeks ago, we has scheduled my trial for a friday night at 6... she picked the time and day pretty much. i rushed to get my highlights done the night before (got them thurs night), get home and i have message on the machine that she is cancelling cause her last appt before me is at 330 and then she can leave at 4 and go home if i don't come. I was kinda mad, cause i work alot and its hard to schedule with her.

so now, mom, sis and friends think i should just got to the really good salon by mom's for the wedding cause if not i will be stressing about whether she will come through for the wedding and i will be screwed if she doesn't. I agree, i want to go to the salon, but i feel like she is gonna get sooooooooooo mad... HELP

what would you do?

MrsSx2 Posted: Feb 08, 2010 03:25 PM

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I would totally go with the salon. On the day of your wedding, the last thing you need is for your cousin to pull some crap like that! It could ruin your whole day! I wouldn't risk it. You gave her plenty of chances, and she keeps messing it up! 'I can leave at 4 if you come' is a crap excuse! Seriously!

stinenandy2010 Posted: Feb 08, 2010 03:26 PM

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Go somewhere else....you don't want to be stressed the day of your wedding wondering if she will show and do a nice job. I know its a sticky situation but put your mind at ease and go to another salon.

Sandradv121 Posted: Feb 08, 2010 03:26 PM

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She sounds a little unrelieable. I mean grant it she is family. However that is no excuse for her to ditch you. I think you may want to consider your options. If you think she will get insulted simply say:

' I was thinking. The day of the wedding is going to be hectic for all of us. Instead of you stressing and rushing around to make sure I am ready, I am going to hire a bridal hair dresser to do my hair that day. Its nothing against you, in fact, I want you to know that this is simply because I don't want to stress you the day of. it would be great that you would come with me to the trials if you can to insure that you like what they do..'

If she gets snotty with you, just stand behind your decision. The last thing you need is to be overly stressed that day. Its not worth it.

Good Luck!!

CarolAnn721 Posted: Feb 08, 2010 03:26 PM

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I understand your cousin is going to have an attitude, but how could she possibly get mad when she has now cancelled your trial. If she was a real vendor you were thinking about, she would have been gone a long time ago.

Just tell your cousin that you won a free day of hair at a bridal expo or that your MOH bought you your day of hair. This way, she will be aggravated, but get over it.

kris_gets_hitched Posted: Feb 08, 2010 03:28 PM

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I would just explain to her that while you would have loved to use her, you've been more than accomodating when it comes to scheduling appointments with her (and shouldn't it be the other way around?!) and yet, her track record of cancelling at the last minute makes you nervous about your day-of hair...especially since she cancelled your trial at such last-minute notice.

If she gets mad, just tell her that she brought it upon herself.

AdriandSteve Posted: Feb 08, 2010 03:31 PM

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I'd go to the person who I know would be reliable. It's not just another hair cut or updo, this is your wedding. You have your mom and your sister on your side which DEF helps.

Jna2010 Posted: Feb 08, 2010 03:32 PM

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go somewhere else... just explain how inconvenient its been and you dont want to be stressed that day. Just because shes family doesnt mean she can cancel anytime she feels like it. Let her know that youre a little annoyed about that and tell it to her like it is. worst thing is she'll get pissed for a little bit but she'll get over it especially with your mom backing you up

LoveyDovey Posted: Feb 08, 2010 03:34 PM

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Posted by Sandradv121

She sounds a little unrelieable. I mean grant it she is family. However that is no excuse for her to ditch you. I think you may want to consider your options. If you think she will get insulted simply say:

' I was thinking. The day of the wedding is going to be hectic for all of us. Instead of you stressing and rushing around to make sure I am ready, I am going to hire a bridal hair dresser to do my hair that day. Its nothing against you, in fact, I want you to know that this is simply because I don't want to stress you the day of. it would be great that you would come with me to the trials if you can to insure that you like what they do..'

If she gets snotty with you, just stand behind your decision. The last thing you need is to be overly stressed that day. Its not worth it.

Good Luck!!

my thoughts exactly!!! make it seem like you are looking out for her!

Jenna_and_John Posted: Feb 08, 2010 03:35 PM

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Posted by AdriandSteve

I'd go to the person who I know would be reliable. It's not just another hair cut or updo, this is your wedding. You have your mom and your sister on your side which DEF helps.

ITA, couldn't have said it better myself!

AngnShaun Posted: Feb 08, 2010 03:38 PM

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ITA with everyone else... you dont need the aggrivation...

cleokizzy Posted: Feb 08, 2010 03:42 PM

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by how your cousin has treated you is a pretty sure sign that you should go elsewhere. if she gets mad and asks about it, tell her it's the way she handled the whole thing that made you look elsewhere.

you shouldn't be worried with what she would feel. worry about what YOU would feel on your wedding day when she *knock on wood* does not show up!

FutureCap Posted: Feb 08, 2010 03:48 PM

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thank you all so much.... i never like to upset people so its so hard for me to call and have this conversation with her... but you have all confirmed for me that following my gutt feeling is what i have to do... now i need t work up the gutts to do it

AwaitingAugust Posted: Feb 08, 2010 03:56 PM

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don't be nervous ... just tell her that you wish it worked out, but it was too difficult because of both your schedules. she should understand .... if not, well, she'll get over it