Help me!!! Wedding dress crisis.

I'm having a major crisis. I went to the Anne Barge Trunk show today where I tried on 5 dresses. This was the first time I've ever tried on wedding dresses but I had an idea in my mind of the kind of dress I wanted. Some of the dresses I tried on today though were nothing like I'd envisioned. You really don't know what you'll like or what'll look good on you until you try it on.

By buying from this trunk show, I can get a dress that won't be in stores til spring 2005 and get 10% off the total price.

So..... one of the dresses I really really loved. It's called the Pamela, made of silk mikado, colored pearl, with the most exquisite beadwork in the front and one the train. After the 10% discount it came up to $3555. I initially didn't want to spend that much on a dress, but after trying dresses on today... it's a different story. The quality in the fabric and detailing is so evident. Most of my friends that are married had a dress custom made for between $750 - $1300. But after trying dresses on for myself, I see the difference in quality and craftsmanship between a custom made gown and a designer gown.

My dilemma is not the price. I could pay that much for the dress and be perfectly fine. It's just that I've only seen the dresses from one designer!! And I have an appointment with Kleinfelds and Sak's next week. What if I find a dress I like better there?! What if I don't find a dress that I like as much as the one I tried on today?! I'm too indecisive to make such a big decision on such short notice!!!

I have until 6:00 pm tomorrow to decide whether or not I want the Anne Barge dress. After that, there's no way I can get that dress. It's gone until it's released in stores next year. Also, it takes 4 months for most dresses to arrive and a month and a half to finish all the alterations. I have less than 6 months til the wedding, so I have to get a dress like yesterday. Ahhhhh!!!!! What pressure!!!

What should I do??????

Personally if it were me, I would not get it. I would drive myself insane thinking 'What if...'

It does not sound like you absolutely adore the dress beyond all comparison. It sounds like you love it, and you know the material and craftmanship is good, and you like the idea of having the dress before most others. All great things, but not that one great thing of 'GASP! This dress was made for me!'

There are many designers out there with great material and craftmanship. If you are willing to spend that much on a dress, then you can find another gorgeous designer dress for that price. Saks and Kleinfelds have alot of great stuff...

OK-- here is what you do...

Look around for other Anne Barge trunk shows in the area. There will be some. Make a note of it- they will have the same dresses and the same discount- if not 2 or 3 percent more off.

Were you at Bridal Atelier??

I tried on an Anne Barge there, then saw it again at Kleinfeld. Met Anne, was going to have it slightly customized, ordered it. Came home crying. Ordered the dress cause I felt pressure. Cancelled the dress cause I kept thinking about two other dresses by another designer. Ended up going to that designers trunk show at Kleinfeld- found one that they did not even have in her salon- and fell in love!

YOu need to make this decision and not feel pressured. Look for other trunk shows!! I think Anne lists them on her site.