Help MOH and Bestman are getting a divorce!!

no stress bride Posted: Jan 31, 2004 05:18 PM

Help MOH and Bestman are getting a divorce!!

Hello,

I need so advice here just found out that MOH and Bestman are getting a divorce!! I'm not sure how things are going to be in 6months between the two of them and if the bestman will be able to handle this emotionally!! I know the MOH will be fine cause she is the one that wants the divorce but I don't know what to do about the whole situation do I keep them in the party or what?? Do i ask another couple just in case?? Help Thanks in advance girls for everything!!

Denise

divabride Posted: Jan 31, 2004 05:23 PM

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Oh, Im so sorry to hear. In this kind of situation the best thing to do is just ask. One of my BM's had a similar situation when she got married her brother and SIL announced they were getting divorced. She didnt know what to do, so she never said anything. The SIL took it as an insult and never showed up to the wedding. My only advice is to ask the both of them how they feel. Just give them a week or two before you ask. Hope everything works out!!

jenny2penny Posted: Jan 31, 2004 05:23 PM

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no stress bride Posted: Jan 31, 2004 05:27 PM

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ur right thats what i have been hearing thanks again!

no stress bride Posted: Feb 02, 2004 09:26 AM

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Anyone else with input??

NYCHICK Posted: Feb 02, 2004 09:33 AM

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O dear I am so sory you have to deal with this. I would talk to them individually, especially him and hear what he says, he may not even want to be it the party anymore and could save you the stress of telling him. to you.

endlessluv429 Posted: Feb 02, 2004 10:22 AM

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ahh..how sad. it's so sad to me when i hear of a marriage breaking up. i would agree with everyone else and say just talk to them and get their positions on the matter. you don't want to have to worry about it all day on your wedding day, wondering if they are going to create a scene or something. good luck! sorry!

september2004 Posted: Feb 02, 2004 11:05 AM

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Yikes. This is a sticky situation and really depends on how emotional and mature the individuals are...

First question to you is: who is better friends? You and the MOH or your FH and the Best Man? If the two will not feel comfortable with each other and if one were to go and not the other, then I would think the 'loyalty' would be with the one who is the better friend. If the friendship is equal and/or you think one may feel slighted, then I would perhaps ask other people only after consulting the couple first. They should understand.

tourist Posted: Feb 02, 2004 11:18 AM

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Maybe if yu talk to them, one will volunteer to switch roles with someone and be a bm or gm that way they don't have to walk together or dance together.

no stress bride Posted: Feb 02, 2004 11:45 AM

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september2004- To answer your questions this really stinks because my fiance and I are very close to both of them my fiance actually grew up with the two of them and they have been dating since HS the soon to be divorcies!! How every u spell it!! anyway We will have to sit with them in a couple of week and see how they feel i already spoke to the MOH and she is fine with everything but the Bestman is who i have a problem with!! Dam and i have been so lucky with planning my wedding i have been stress free and it has been scarying me how everything is just going so perfect and now this happened!! Thanks for your input!

september2004 Posted: Feb 02, 2004 12:04 PM

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Posted by no stress bride

september2004- To answer your questions this really stinks because my fiance and I are very close to both of them my fiance actually grew up with the two of them and they have been dating since HS the soon to be divorcies!! How every u spell it!! anyway We will have to sit with them in a couple of week and see how they feel i already spoke to the MOH and she is fine with everything but the Bestman is who i have a problem with!! Dam and i have been so lucky with planning my wedding i have been stress free and it has been scarying me how everything is just going so perfect and now this happened!! Thanks for your input!

yuck - truly sticky...

it would stink not to have either of them but may prove to be the most 'fair'. 6 months is still a really short time for the dumpee to feel okay with everything so he really would have to have his game face on if both agree to participate as planned. what does the MOH think? would she be willing to take the back seat on this one and would you be okay with that? generally speaking, usually women are more mature, understanding, and sensitive to these issues...