HELP PICKING DATE AT CLM .UPDATED NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Original post by PapayaChic

Jun 09, 2006 09:59 AM

Background of what we want
I always wanted an evening wedding and a veienese hour
Anthony always wanted to get married outside and in the daytime (which we arent going to do bc in the day you cant add the viennese hour)

Anyway, this afternoon I'm going to see Nick at CLM to sign the contract. THe date that has been held is Saturday, November 10. THe ceremony would be at 5pm but since it will be chilly and dark the ceremony will be indoors. We originally wanted Saturday bc 30% of the invited will be from upstate.

But then last night we started thinking about the other date that is available Friday October 19. If we have it Friday, we would send out STD's this October and then send out invites 3 monThs prior instead of the norm of 6-8 weeks.

On 10/19 the ceremony would begin at 6pm. The sun starts setting at 6:08 so we could possibly have our quick 25 minute ceremony at sunset. THis would thrill Anthony. Plus it would def be a little warmer to take pics beforehand

But my question is, isnt Friday inconveniencing many people. Anthony said whoever wants to be there will be there and our stds and invite will give them enough notice. I just dont know.

What would you do?

eta On Friday in October even if it was too cold to have outdoors, indoor has large windows to still see sunset. So thats Anthonys case
MY case is that I think people would be annoyed for a 6pm Friday ceremony and then reception

UPDATE
WEDDING IS FRIDAY OCTOBER 19 AT 600
IF NICE, OUTDOOR CEREMON
IF NOT IN THE CHAPEL EITHER WAY WE'LL HAVE VIEWS OF THE SUNSET

Gin-Char 104 Posted: Jun 09, 2006 02:47 PM

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I voted Friday b/c from your post it really sounded like this is what you wanted and the people from upstate will just have to take a half day for your weddings ...October sounds the best and the colors are GREAT!

leese Posted: Jun 09, 2006 02:55 PM

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I would do the Oct. date, but I would also throw out there that you can't always plan around weather - meaning, it could be warm, it could be cold, the horrid 'r' thing that happens... so i would go with the date that most makes YOU guys happy.

And seriously, you never know about those OOT people....we picked our date on a Saturday for them too, and the ones that we thought would come, didnt.

So go with your gut!

leese Posted: Jun 09, 2006 02:57 PM

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Posted by melbalalala

Im all about making things as convenient as possible for guests..... I paid more for my sat night wedding but its worth it because then people dont have to take off work to be there.

I guess you could call me a guest-advocate

ETA: And October weather could be iffy. If the only reason is to do the outdoor stuff it won't seem worth the change if its raining, extremely windy, etc. Friday = possible lovely outdoor wedding, Saturday = guests happier

I did the same thing and you'll be surprised that many guests that you did this for...end up not coming anyway. It's extremely surprising. I still had a huge wedding but the people who want to be there will be there...

ds319 Posted: Jun 09, 2006 04:07 PM

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Posted by camerakrazie

my wedding is on a friday as well....the people that you want and love the most will be at your ceremony and reception regardless of the date...dont worry about it being on a friday...its become more common and people just take a half day ot the whole day off...

I think you should go with the October 19th day since the weather will be warmer and the sun will go down later rather than in November. esp when its at CLM...you want to take advantage of the view.

I agree. My wedding is on a Friday and my dad gave me slack about it but all the people who we love and want to be there will make it there! Do what's in your heart.

trish71407 Posted: Jun 09, 2006 05:27 PM

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My wedding is on Saturday! Half of my guests are from upstate because this is where my FH lives. I didnt want to inconvience anyone and make them take off more days then they might have too! Your FH is right that those that want to be there will be, but you cant predict traffic and im getting married in July so traffic on a Friday to Long Island is bad. Your getting married in October/Nov. traffic wont be as bad!

Why not ask some of your guests if they would mind before booking? This would give you an idea of how they feel.

snydl40 Posted: Jun 09, 2006 05:40 PM

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Fridays are great! The only real people we care about watching us get married are family and close friends. If everyone can't make the ceremony-it's ok. The most important people will be there. Good luck!

jantany26 Posted: Jun 09, 2006 05:44 PM

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I would do it in October, it's still warm and you both can get what you want.

good luck Chica !!

njbound07 Posted: Jun 09, 2006 05:47 PM

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I would go with the Saturday evening. B/c you don't your guest rushing from work to your wedding.. and then with a long day at work they may be too tired to party.....

PapayaChic Posted: Jun 09, 2006 06:35 PM

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update on top

Happybride2005 Posted: Jun 09, 2006 07:43 PM

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Nina Posted: Jun 09, 2006 07:45 PM

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Yay Jess that is great news!!!!!!!!!!

And the weather will be perfect so you can have your outdoor wedding!!!!!!! Yay

Soon2BeMrs2006 Posted: Jun 09, 2006 07:46 PM

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yay congrats on the date chosen

lisaslove Posted: Jun 09, 2006 08:32 PM

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congrats!!

rachel212 Posted: Jul 16, 2006 08:08 AM

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Go with the Friday!!! This is your wedding and if it 'inconveniences' anyone and that's how they think of it, then too bad!! Definitely go with the Friday - it is so much better for you and Anthony.

Unapearla Posted: Jul 16, 2006 01:32 PM

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CONGRATS ON PICKING A DATE!

Jenn n Lance Posted: Oct 03, 2006 09:02 PM

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I also picked a friday at CLM, and I'm so happy I did! Everyone I asked said I was silly to hesitate over a friday wedding- and that they would *love* to take off on a friday.

Its understandable that not everyone has flexibility like that, but everyone I spoke to said the same thing- people will have plenty of time in advance to work with their schedules and make it happen.

Good luck!

Elise&Matt Posted: Oct 03, 2006 09:11 PM

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Go for the Friday.... it's what you both want and there is plenty of time for OOTers to make arrangements

I had to vote for 11/10 only cause it's the day b4 mine heheheheh