Help.. please some advice needed for embarrasing situation.

I didnt exactly know where to put this and as I am embarased to be writing this, well here goes anyway.

My FH seems to have some bedroom problems. Its turning into my problem though. He doesnt seem to want to try anything new or different. Same old thing I hate to say. I dont want our relationship ruined over this but something has to change. There is no nothing in the bedroom, no foreplay, etc. The funny thing is he thinks he is very good, and well I dont say he isnt but I call it the wam bam thank you ma'am thing. If thats all there was in the bedroom then he is great but thats not all there is. I dont know what to do. I have tried talking to him about it and he says, well I dont like this or that. Well, what about me... Any suggestions on how to be a little stronger with this and come right out and say something to him instead of beating around the bush or minimizing the issue with him.. Thanks..

I think it's important that he understand that this issue is important to YOU. A relationship is 2 sided and it can't just be about 1 person. Try talking to him in a neutral environment, such as the living room, and let him know that while you love him and understand that he doesn't like certain things, you do. See what his suggestions are and perhaps you can both come up with something together. Otherwise, if this continues, it may become a serious problem and your FH may have issues he needs to explore (Possibly in therapy).

Good luck.

maybe you can stop talking about it and just do something. . .

have a few drinks, loosen him up - then just bring different things in that you always wanted to try out

IMO, you really need to have a serious talk with him... If you don't and this *issue* is still there after you get married it can affect yyour overall happiness.

If it is important to YOU, he should understand,

like my mom always says.. marriage is a compromise.

If you can live with the sex for the rest of your life, then ok... but it seems to me it really bothers you.. and rightfully so.

good luck