Help terrible bridal shower!

1princess Posted: Jul 13, 2005 02:09 PM

Help terrible bridal shower!

I just had my shower this past Sat and sadly to say it was the worst ever I actually cried afterword. Every gift was like $20, it was very insulting since most of the gifts were given from people who I spent over $80 or more on every time I went to a party of theres. My bridesmaids argued about everything and couldn't agree on anything. My shower was in the backyard of my moms and most of the dishes made were homemade not catered ( which is actually very nice) but than my sister in-law told me the shower cost $1180??? It's not like they spent alot on a gift for me? 6 girls chipped in for a $250 Kitchenaid mixer. and the invitations were the ones that you bought at the store and filled in yourself. what cost so much??? My mother bought the cake. so all the girls were upset at my sister because she didn't really break down the costs for the other bridesmaids and they were all wondering what cost so much. so to be spiteful they all didn't pay my sister till the day of my shower. which I got to hear about from my family. Not one person bought me my nightgown, a garter, unity candle or Wedding album. When I threw there showers I made sure that all these things were bought for them. I was just so insulted. My future Mother in Law didn't even send a gift or a card. Only half the people came that were invited and 1/3 of those people left early. It had to be the weirdest experience ever. did anyone else have a bad experience or just me?? I know it sounds ungrateful but I was just so insulted.

leighdvm Posted: Jul 13, 2005 02:11 PM

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It sounds awful, I'm so sorry you had a bad time! I would definitely ask your sister how she came up with that number, though.

wintergirl06 Posted: Jul 13, 2005 02:12 PM

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I haven't had my shower yet, but I just wanted to say that I am sorry that you had such a disappointing experience. Put it behind you as soon as you can, get FH to cheer you up, and maybe you can find a way to joke about it. At least your wedding is under YOUR control, and you'll be able to turn that into a beautiful day!

peanutmich Posted: Jul 13, 2005 02:12 PM

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I would be upset too. Its not about the gift but people should recipricate what you gave them! There is nothing you can do, just learn from it and move on. Sorry! :(

dpli Posted: Jul 13, 2005 02:12 PM

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I didn't have a shower (by choice), so I can't relate to your experience, but just wanted to say - don't let this get you down.

Donna Posted: Jul 13, 2005 02:13 PM

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I'm sorry you had such a bad experience

I'm sorry that your bridal party let you down, and I can't imagine what cost $1180, your sister should def. show the girls the receipts for everything.

1princess Posted: Jul 13, 2005 02:15 PM

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thanks girls I just had to get tat off my chest. it did really bumm me out for the week. Even the bridal bingo game no one won because it didn't get anything. it was very strange and is difficult to sit there and smile.

tann22 Posted: Jul 13, 2005 02:16 PM

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Don't let it get you down!!

mrsgtobe Posted: Jul 13, 2005 02:30 PM

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I am so sorry that you had such a bad experience at your shower. Don't let it get you down, though - your wedding will still be the most wonderful day of your life!

tray831 Posted: Jul 13, 2005 02:58 PM

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I'm so sorry to hear that. That day must have been a complete fog to you. Please dont think that you are being ungrateful--you have every right to feel the way you did.

Just think when your wedding comes.......it will be 100% better and so worth it.

Just maybe have a talk with your sister, and see what went wrong? Explain to your BM's so everyone is all on the same page when your wedding comes

SummerBride06 Posted: Jul 13, 2005 02:58 PM

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here's a hug!

Preshy7 Posted: Jul 13, 2005 03:01 PM

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sorry sweetie :(
i feel so bad- that is awful that you did not enjoy your shower. i cant understand what would cost 1150 either- especially if the cake was purchased by your mom.

at least you got your mixer...some people can be cheap though.
thats just how people are.

i hope your wedding and bachelorette party will be much more memorable.

maybe the $1150 includes your bachelorette party?

SIBride06 Posted: Jul 13, 2005 03:02 PM

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Wow.. thats terrible. Im so sorry. At least the wedding is under your own control.

brooklynbridezilla Posted: Jul 13, 2005 03:04 PM

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i'm so sorry you were disappointed!!!!! i don't think you sound spoiled at all.

jes81276 Posted: Jul 13, 2005 03:33 PM

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My goodness. I'm so sorry to hear about your shower. However, on a positive note - at least your wedding will be beautiful....you're having it at a fabulous place (call me partial). I would definitely ask what cost so much - I threw a shower at a restaurant and it cost maybe a third of that. Good luck with everything else.