HELP. What do I do?????

Ok so here's the deal. When FH and I first got engaged I choose my BP. I had asked FBIL's Girlfriend because FBIL said he was going to propose soon. So back in February I called her a few times just to say hello and to make sure she ordered her dress. She never answered the phone or called me back for that matter. I had to ask FH to ask FBIL to ask BM if she ordered the dress. Well fast forward a few months and now my MOH is trying to get in touch with her to plan my BS. She's left messages and still no call back.

Well after expecting them to get engaged and that not happening, it turns out they broke up about a month ago. What the hell do I do? Do I kick her out? Do I ask FBIL what he wants me to do? I'm just sooooo pissed that she hasn't called me or anyone back in the past 3 months. Wouldn't you think she'd at least have the courtsey to pick up the da*n phone!!!!

OK, Now I feel better.

I know she must be going through an awkward/weird time, but not calling you back is RUDE. She knows you have the wedding to think about, and the sheer fact that she's neglecting to answer your calls or give you information is grounds for politely sending her an email explaining how you understand things are hard now, and you assume she does not want to be involved.

In any other circumstance...like if she were being friendly with you and answering your calls and acknowleding your wedding, then i'd say to keep her as a part of your day. Its hard to 'un-ask' someone. BUT..in this case you are justified. Just wash your hands of it...good luck :)

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Posted by cresthollowbride

do you think she even still wants to be in the wedding party?? i know i wouldnt be if i was in that situtaion. is there any way you can find out.?

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I agree with cresthollowbride completely...I also would want out.

I also Agree. She probably doesn't know what to say. Is there a way that you can e-mail her? Or just leave a mes saying that you really need to talk to her and that if she doesn't call back, you assume that she doesn't want to be apart of the wedding, just try and be as nice as possible.

I hope it works out.

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Posted by SomethingBlu

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Posted by cresthollowbride

do you think she even still wants to be in the wedding party?? i know i wouldnt be if i was in that situtaion. is there any way you can find out.?

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I agree with cresthollowbride completely...I also would want out.

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I agree as well

wow, how long were they going out? I would talk to FBIL and see was this just a fight and are they getting back together? If they are broken up for good I would pick up her dress and find someone else to wear it or sell it on ebay. I doubt FBIL would be comfortable with her there if they are broken up etc.

Gosh, I feel so bad for you. What a horrible position your in

Sounds like she kicked herself out. I would call and if she doesn't answer, say' Okay, I guess we know that you aren't a part of the BP anymore.....see ya.'

Don't stress over it, you have more important things to worry about!

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Posted by Borricuamorena0905

I would think they she wants out too..and doesn't know how to tell you..

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I agree... I would try to contact FBIL and find out the facts, then wash your hands of it...

sorry this is happening

Did she order the dress??

if not, give her the boot.. (nicely)... I'm sure she'll be relieved.

Were you close with her?

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Posted by dleeny

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Posted by SomethingBlu

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Posted by cresthollowbride

do you think she even still wants to be in the wedding party?? i know i wouldnt be if i was in that situtaion. is there any way you can find out.?

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I agree with cresthollowbride completely...I also would want out.

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I agree as well

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I agree as well. Maybe you should call her and just give the the way out (or most likely leave her a message).