HELP...UPDATED!

luvsun27 Posted: Feb 06, 2004 04:18 PM

HELP...UPDATED!

I have one last invite to address...of course it was from FH's list. Anyway...he doesn't know the last name of his friend's husband. He refuses to call her...I don't know them. So...how should I address the invite???

They are married...but she does not use his last name. I even tried doing a reverse look-up with the address...but the phone is in her name!!!!

Mrs. Jane Smith and Joe?
Ms. Jane Smith and Guest?

Or should I just put her name on the invite and include a note on the inside? We don't have inner envelopes. UGH!

Bebalina Posted: Feb 06, 2004 04:23 PM

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I think u should put mrs, jane smith and Joe, and then include the note, a note isnt so bad if u think she'll understand....how bout of if FH asks his parents.?

OctBride03 Posted: Feb 06, 2004 04:23 PM

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I honestly think that you should find out the last name... I don't think it seems right to address it to her as Mrs. **** and guest or Mrs. **** and Joe, it doesn't sound right... JMHO tho!

karen32 Posted: Feb 06, 2004 04:25 PM

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i think you need to find his last name. especially since they are married. i think it would be disrespectful to put just 'and joe'.

kel2004 Posted: Feb 06, 2004 04:25 PM

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I think your FH should call and find out. I received a wedding invitation this week addressed to me and 'guest'. I have been engaged since October, and my friend has met my FH many times. I think she was too lazy to call and find out his last name. I would not want to offend any of my guests by doing something like that. JMO...

palebride Posted: Feb 06, 2004 04:25 PM

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i agree that you should find out the last name

kathy2176 Posted: Feb 06, 2004 04:26 PM

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I agree. I think you should find out the last name. It just doesn't sound right any other way. Sorry.

Rob-luvs-me Posted: Feb 06, 2004 04:27 PM

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I agree you need to find out the last name - if it is not possible - you could always address outside as Mrs Jane smith

Inside you can just write Jane and Joe - but honestly ONLY as a last resort

xjulietx Posted: Feb 06, 2004 04:30 PM

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Sit your FH down and MAKE him call. It will show that he cares about his friend.

tourist Posted: Feb 06, 2004 04:35 PM

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I take it no else knows them, no mutual friends?

My friends didnt' know my Fh's last name for a long while so I got alot of Ms. my name & him.

Do it as a last resort.

Can you call? Maybe it won't seem as dumb, since you don't know them, you're not expected to know?

luvsun27 Posted: Feb 06, 2004 04:42 PM

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Thanks ladies...I'm so annoyed with FH right now. I've asked him to call...he says he won't. I would feel stupid calling, since I've never met these people. Maybe I just won't invite them at all...if FH doesn't want to get the last name...Ugh...I don't know what to do

xjulietx Posted: Feb 06, 2004 04:47 PM

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Just tell your FH that you refuse to address the envelope if he doesn't find out the husband's last name. See how important it is to him...

CherylBooch Posted: Feb 06, 2004 04:56 PM

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This is where I draw the line...
If this was me.... (note: my opinion)

If he wants them there and I do not know them - HE MUST FIND OUT THE NAME. If not... I would NOT invite them. NO INVITE! Tough boogies to him! She obviously is NOT a good friend if he does not feel comfortable enough to call. So why would I have these people at my wedding????

Very simple & I save the money on the invite