Here I go again.....(vent)

neesiepie Posted: Nov 21, 2003 01:05 PM

Here I go again.....(vent)

I told myself that from now on, if my friends wanted to hang out with me, they can come out by me (Kings Park-they live in the Massapequa area) I USED to live in Massapequa until about the yr 2000. So far, out of my 4 closest friends (these girls are supposed to be in my wedding and I was in theirs) only ONE has been to my house ONCE! EVERY SINGLE TIME we hang out I have to drive 25 mins to go to them. It's not fair, since I have asked them several times to come out by me and every single time there is a lame excuse. WELL...one of the girls recently moved to Lindenhurst and it takes the same amount of time to get to her house b/c of the lights and traffic as it does to get to mine (I'm right off the Sunken Meadow Pkwy) EVERYONE JUMPS at the invitation to go there. I miss my 'friends' and SOOO... tonight I am ONCE AGAIN sucking it up and DRIVING TO LINDENHURST so that I can see them since it's been over 2 months! And not only do I not see them, but I get a phone call 1-2 times a week from my best friend, but the other 3 NEVER call me. They call my best friend to find out about me. They make plans without me and then make my best friend call me to let me know what they are doing and if I want to, I can join. AAAAAGH! I am mad at myself for caving in. Anyone else feel like their friendships are all one-sided? I need to find new friends! It's only 20 mins, PEOPLE! SHEESH! What are they gonna do when we start moving out of state? sorry for the long vent....

BMD'sPeanut Posted: Nov 21, 2003 01:08 PM

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it's hard to maintain friendships (especially when one person feels they are in a one-sided friendship)
it's also so hard to let go...
things will work out.
you can only do for YOU.
you will either reach a breaking point...or you won't...

larryswife2be Posted: Nov 21, 2003 01:10 PM

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I know what you mean, sometimes friends don't realize the sacrifices you make for them!

Kelly9904 Posted: Nov 21, 2003 01:20 PM

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Thats horrible!! I think they are just being selfish honestly.
I live in Lindenhurst and I can say that Massapequa is closer than Kings Park (FH lives there) but I treck to Kings Park, Dix Hills and Smithtown to see my friends and they do it for me as well!
Maybe you should say something to them that you are hurt that they never make any effort to come to you! (especially considering they are in yoru wedding)

AUG21-04 Posted: Nov 21, 2003 01:28 PM

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when u go there tonight let them know how u feel. if they r ur friends they will understand

julz33 Posted: Nov 21, 2003 03:01 PM

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Hey!
I just wanted to say that I live in Kings Park too!

wc0143 Posted: Nov 21, 2003 03:03 PM

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I live in Ft Salonga right off the Sunken Meadow!! But I'm an old lazy sack of bones so that doesn't really help you.

Sorry your 'friends' are being that way. You'd think since they could travel to you in a pack, they would just do it.

anaissa Posted: Nov 21, 2003 08:35 PM

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I felt like I lost a lot of 'good' friends when I moved to SI from N. Massapequa and I don't know anyone here... But we are all older and spreading out, so I guess it's only natural to lose touch. Your truly good friends will make the effort to see you. I still wind up traveling a lot to visit people, but then again I was the one to move so far away. You have to take it with a grain of salt.

jess2504 Posted: Nov 21, 2003 08:54 PM

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I know how you feel because I live 20 minutes from my friends too and I rarely get any visitors. I try not to take it personally. Tell your friends how you feel; maybe they will make more of an effort if they know how you feel.

kimmie Posted: Nov 22, 2003 11:15 AM

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My best friend lives in Queens and her and I don't get to see eachother that much but we talk on the phone EVERYDAY. We had a big downfall in our friendship last year and we didn't speak for a couple of months mostly because I wasn't being a good friend but I missed her soooo much and now we are at an understanding that our friendship is a two way street and you have to try!!!!