Here's my BM dresses.. a problem though!!!!

Original post by mattnnic327

Jul 19, 2003 12:32 AM

Okay so of my 2 future fsil's one totally HATES the dress and thought nothing to go home and tell FMIL this,, she is the only one with a problem.. what do I do? Everyone else LOVES it and so do I! She is starting to really **** me off and I dont want this to start a HUGE thing, although I feel that her telling her mother, when we got back after we were already at the place and she tried it on, where there was another BM with us, she waited until noone else was there, and it was cowardly. What do I do? Is It ME?????????

HeatherandNick Posted: Jul 19, 2003 10:47 AM

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i think its beautiful too

Fran M Posted: Jul 19, 2003 11:33 AM

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HAY WHO'S THE BRIDE HERE!
Thas all I would have to say to her.

palebride Posted: Jul 19, 2003 11:48 AM

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first of all - the dress is beautiful
and second of all - it's the bride's decicion! i understand that you want everyone to be happy - but sometimes that is impossible! And when the situation is impossible, it's up to the people getting married to choose. and that's YOU - so let her be obnoxious, tell her to have a great time being obxnoxious in a beautiful dress!!

mishandgerard Posted: Jul 19, 2003 11:52 AM

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majority rules, you win!

butterfly20 Posted: Jul 19, 2003 11:54 AM

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that dress is so beautiful, you just cant please everyone

Latina511 Posted: Jul 19, 2003 11:56 AM

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Its beautiful!!! I think it is very elegant. Something is wrong with her. You are the one that gets to pick the dress in reality and now a days us brides want to give our BM's a choice which is fine but sometimes we have to put our foot down. Tell her that that is the dress and that is it. If she really wanted to be in the bridal party then she would have to accept it.

MissLinda Posted: Jul 19, 2003 11:57 AM

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Tell her if she doesn't like it, she doesn't have to wear it and doesn't have to be in the wedding party end of story! It's your day!! DO what YOU want!

P.S. Love the dress

jlm2004 Posted: Jul 19, 2003 11:59 AM

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It is not up to her.
She is entitled to her opinion and you are entitled to a pleasant wedding. So she needs to deal with it or tell you and your FI she can't be in wedding party

I've learned that some people actually enjoy being confrontational and difficult. The more you try to help them, the more difficult they will be and you will go crazy.

That is the dress. End of discussion.

mattnnic327 Posted: Jul 19, 2003 12:52 PM

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Thanks for all the input,, she has already become cold to me but I can't worry day to day if everything i am doing, is pleasing her. I feel bad because I don't want to be the EVIL DAUGHTER IN LAW!!! but they also need to teach their daughter a little class..

By the way.. it is 2 peice and plain in the front. It has trimming around the top of the dress and the sleeves.

2003fallwedding Posted: Jul 19, 2003 02:14 PM

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I agree with evryone else, it is a beautiful dress...if she doesn't like it, then don't be in the bridal party, end of story!!

Diane Posted: Jul 19, 2003 03:03 PM

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love it

HearzBellz Posted: Jul 19, 2003 03:23 PM

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I think the dress is gorgeous. Why doesn't she like the dress??? Does it show more skin than she would like? Maybe if you be the bigger person & approach her & ask her what the problem is, you guys can diplomatically work something out (or at the very least make her feel more comfortable about wearing it.)

If she is just being ridiculous, then too bad, she shouldn't have accepted then. Who on this earth does not know that being a BM means wearing a BM dress that the BRIDE gets to choose (usually). It is just the way it is.

Good luck

112903 Posted: Jul 19, 2003 04:08 PM

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I think the dress is awesome.. I will be in your bridal party if she doesn't want to

prncssrachel Posted: Jul 19, 2003 05:26 PM

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She just sounds like a bratty 20 yr. old who's not getting her way (having her bf in the bp), so she's just pi ssy about it and giving you a hard time to make up for it. She'll get over it. And if she doesn't, who cares? She's the one who's going to waste all that negative energy and time. Don't let it interfere with this GREAT time in YOUR life! Good Luck!

OctBride05 Posted: Jul 19, 2003 06:10 PM

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i think it's a beautiful dress.

merf99 Posted: Jul 19, 2003 08:07 PM

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It is a beautiful dress- she should be happy that she is in your bridal party and not complaining!!

MichaelsGirl Posted: Jul 19, 2003 08:53 PM

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I think the dress is beautiful and if you like the dress and so does everyone else, then you should get them. It seems as though FSIL would have a problem with any dress you pick if she's so difficult. I would tell FI to have a little talk with his sister...
The truth is, you can't please everyone, so if everyone loves the dress, then go for it!!!!

WithThisRing Posted: Jul 19, 2003 08:54 PM

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beautiful dress

my motto is 'I'm the bride'

so if she dont like oh well you the bride.

Dont let her upset you. Its your decision

matt'sprincess Posted: Jul 20, 2003 11:58 AM

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Nicole you are freaking me out!!!! That is my bms dress. This is tooooo crazy. You have to contact me we have way too many things in common... Wow I can not believe it!! You have FM.