Hey I missed you and Vent
HEY GiRLS!!!
I am back from a crazy few weeks. First I was away for nationals, then to Cancun. Then when I get home a few days ago I had tons of work to do for my Job, Curriculum writing. So I have not been on here for a while, but I have missed you all! I hope everyone is ok. And doing well. I have been so busy I haven't even done anything for the wedding in about two weeks!
I will sort through the treads and try my best to catch up..
ok so heres the vent.....
So Now, my FMIL is in town from Nigeria! Staying with us for a week before she makes her way to see FBIL in Jersey. I love her, she is the sweetest women, but.... No sooner than she steps off the plane, she starts on FH about why is the wedding so far away, and asks us to move it up, and offers to give us money to do so. Offering like 10gs. She wants to throw us a wedding in Nigeria and is pressed for us to move it up. FH is the oldest and the other siblings are still in their early twenties finishing up college and no were near marriage. So he's getting alot of pressure from his parents to hurry up and get married and have kids. Also I think they just want to throw this Nigerian Wedding. Which sounds amazing, but she seems like she gets to plan the whole entire thing. I have no input at all. Not even what I get to wear. And its going to be this huge extravaganza with like 300 people there. She mentioned decorations, and I was like, I am almost afraid to ask what these decorations will look like!
I told her thank you, but the date is already set, we have booked the RH, the Church, moving it up to next summer is impossible at this point because It is less than a year away. We can do the Nigerian wedding a few months after the wedding here. She was like well we'll see (acting like if she doesnt get her way than the whole thing is off) I have to talk to his dad.![]()
Sigh.... You know its bad enough just having to deal with my family. But I am realizing that getting married means having to deal with two families on every decision we make from here on out. Its hard trying not to be disrespectful, while making sure you are living the life you invisioned for yourself. Sigh!![]()
On a good note, she was shocked by how much weight i had lost since she saw me last year. FH said he kept it a secret on purpose so when she saw me she screamed! It felt really great!![]()
I am back from a crazy few weeks. First I was away for nationals, then to Cancun. Then when I get home a few days ago I had tons of work to do for my Job, Curriculum writing. So I have not been on here for a while, but I have missed you all! I hope everyone is ok. And doing well. I have been so busy I haven't even done anything for the wedding in about two weeks!
I will sort through the treads and try my best to catch up..
ok so heres the vent.....
So Now, my FMIL is in town from Nigeria! Staying with us for a week before she makes her way to see FBIL in Jersey. I love her, she is the sweetest women, but.... No sooner than she steps off the plane, she starts on FH about why is the wedding so far away, and asks us to move it up, and offers to give us money to do so. Offering like 10gs. She wants to throw us a wedding in Nigeria and is pressed for us to move it up. FH is the oldest and the other siblings are still in their early twenties finishing up college and no were near marriage. So he's getting alot of pressure from his parents to hurry up and get married and have kids. Also I think they just want to throw this Nigerian Wedding. Which sounds amazing, but she seems like she gets to plan the whole entire thing. I have no input at all. Not even what I get to wear. And its going to be this huge extravaganza with like 300 people there. She mentioned decorations, and I was like, I am almost afraid to ask what these decorations will look like!
I told her thank you, but the date is already set, we have booked the RH, the Church, moving it up to next summer is impossible at this point because It is less than a year away. We can do the Nigerian wedding a few months after the wedding here. She was like well we'll see (acting like if she doesnt get her way than the whole thing is off) I have to talk to his dad.
Sigh.... You know its bad enough just having to deal with my family. But I am realizing that getting married means having to deal with two families on every decision we make from here on out. Its hard trying not to be disrespectful, while making sure you are living the life you invisioned for yourself. Sigh!
On a good note, she was shocked by how much weight i had lost since she saw me last year. FH said he kept it a secret on purpose so when she saw me she screamed! It felt really great!
