Hey Sandra!!

i hope everything worked out!

I hope everything went ok as well!!!

I hope everything worked out.....

I hope so too...let us know

hope you're feeling better

yes, I hope it worked itself out.

Hey girlies!
Just a quick update:

I stood my ground. I explained to him how it hurt so bad and that it can not EVER happen again. He said sorry, and I think he knows what he did was wrong, but I am still hurt nontheless, and have yet to 100% forgive him for it. I'm at 85%.

That is why people should think before they speak. While you may not think your words are hurtful, they can actually be REALLY damaging.
He meant to be helpful he said, because he didn't want me to struggle so hard to feel good, but than I asked him why not choose words that are more Supportive. He said he wasn't thinking. (the typical excuse) And I told him that I am pretty toned, and that I can't be Brooke Burke, I mean I could look like her if I had a personal gym, all the time in the world and a full time chef. I don't have the means for any of that, and not to mention that I think that my body is at the best it could be! He completely understood and agreed, and I totally reminded him of my struggle as a teenager, and how long the freakin journey to healthy was for me, and that to say something as harsh as that was out line and could have set me back on my long term recovery. I think he finally sees and I really don't think my body will ever be an issue again.

I'm not going to lie; I felt beyond self conscious last night. But I had to tell myself these cheesy affirmations (but they work) that I am healthy looking and toned. And it really helped.

FH is still up Shyt's creek. But at least he knows that he really hurt me. And at least he is sorry. I mean, he really is so sorry that he did that. I think he realized when I was freaking out on him. I think we will be fine, and he knows never to ever do that to me again. I think we reached a new level last night.

I think I will be ok. I woke up this morning feeling a whole lot better than yesterday. And I felt a lot better about my body. And knowing that FH understands now, didn't really mean it, and that he still loves me and its for who I am.

I really wanted to thank you all for your support through this. It is really good to know that there are wonderful people at there who support you and understand your feelings. I <3 you all

I'm glad to hear you are doing good and the conversation seem to have went well. Sometimes the 'self talk' really goes a long way, so just keep telling yourself you look fabulous, and you really do!

glad to hear..

I'm so happy to hear that you had a good talk with him. Sometimes they really are just dumb and say the first thing that comes to their mind without thinking of the ramifications. Glad to know you're feeling better

im so happy u stood your ground!!!!!!!!!!!

its so scary to have big arguments now during the engagement....i had one with FH a couple of weeks ago, and was like 'if im marrying this guy, i need to SPEAK UP how i feel about the situation!'

So good for u! im so happy ur feeling better, and of course u always have support from us on here!!

x0x0

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Posted by Sandradv121

Hey girlies!
Just a quick update:

I stood my ground. I explained to him how it hurt so bad and that it can not EVER happen again. He said sorry, and I think he knows what he did was wrong, but I am still hurt nontheless, and have yet to 100% forgive him for it. I'm at 85%.

That is why people should think before they speak. While you may not think your words are hurtful, they can actually be REALLY damaging.
He meant to be helpful he said, because he didn't want me to struggle so hard to feel good, but than I asked him why not choose words that are more Supportive. He said he wasn't thinking. (the typical excuse) And I told him that I am pretty toned, and that I can't be Brooke Burke, I mean I could look like her if I had a personal gym, all the time in the world and a full time chef. I don't have the means for any of that, and not to mention that I think that my body is at the best it could be! He completely understood and agreed, and I totally reminded him of my struggle as a teenager, and how long the freakin journey to healthy was for me, and that to say something as harsh as that was out line and could have set me back on my long term recovery. I think he finally sees and I really don't think my body will ever be an issue again.

I'm not going to lie; I felt beyond self conscious last night. But I had to tell myself these cheesy affirmations (but they work) that I am healthy looking and toned. And it really helped.

FH is still up Shyt's creek. But at least he knows that he really hurt me. And at least he is sorry. I mean, he really is so sorry that he did that. I think he realized when I was freaking out on him. I think we will be fine, and he knows never to ever do that to me again. I think we reached a new level last night.

I think I will be ok. I woke up this morning feeling a whole lot better than yesterday. And I felt a lot better about my body. And knowing that FH understands now, didn't really mean it, and that he still loves me and its for who I am.

I really wanted to thank you all for your support through this. It is really good to know that there are wonderful people at there who support you and understand your feelings. I <3 you all

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That sounds like it went really well, glad to hear it, you're awesome!!

I am so relieved that you feel a bit better!!!

SO glad you talked to him and that he understands.


You did great, and you look great!