hi

WithThisRing Posted: Feb 18, 2003 11:13 AM

hi

shelzyp Posted: Feb 18, 2003 11:28 AM

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Punch her, it may make you feel better, and since she is going to physical therapy on saturday, it won't matter, they can fix it.

JK!!!

Serioudly though, some people just don't understand that when you set up appointments for things they need to be there. Maybe can she meet you there after her p/t?

WithThisRing Posted: Feb 18, 2003 11:38 AM

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LOL

alina Posted: Feb 18, 2003 11:43 AM

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Chippa, don't beat her up, but make it clear that you and other bm's will shop without her and she has a chance of wearing the dress that she may not necessarily like...

There is no excuse for her behavior, and she can move her appt for therapy to another day, especially since it was set after your dress shopping appt.

SeptemberBride03 Posted: Feb 18, 2003 11:49 AM

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Just go without her. Most of my BM live out of state, so I went with my MOH and then told the girls where to look at my top 4 choices on the internet and then I went later with three of the other girls and picked the dress out. Three of my BM never got to see the dress in person. Its easier with less people anyway.

michele31 Posted: Feb 18, 2003 11:53 AM

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Honestly go without her! She sounds like she will be a total pain anyway. Let the other girls pick the dress and TELL her which one she is wearing. For some reason I can just hear all the other girls loving a gown, and her saying 'I hate that one'. Avoid the real aggivation, count this as a blessing and proceed without her.

WithThisRing Posted: Feb 18, 2003 11:55 AM

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dubliner Posted: Feb 18, 2003 11:55 AM

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Don't punch her, just tell her calmly that this is the day you are choosing BM dresses and if she can't come, then she will have to accept the decisions made in her absense.

I have no time for that behaviour. While I like to include others, its just too stressful. Its your wedding, you pick, and give her a date when she needs to be fitted for

Sassy Posted: Feb 18, 2003 12:00 PM

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What a nuisance she is. If she keeps it up, it's best you go w/o her anyway. When all is decided, say 'this is the dress, go get measured, and hand in your down payment'

WithThisRing Posted: Feb 18, 2003 12:03 PM

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WithThisRing Posted: Feb 18, 2003 12:06 PM

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FI said he would also talk to her. So hopefully she'll realize how upset this makes me

lilmrs Posted: Feb 18, 2003 01:21 PM

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I wholeheartedly agree with Liz...just give her no say if she does not show up. If she doesn't like the dress than tough crap...one thing I learned in wedding planning...is if you need to get things done, do them....don't always try to work around everyone's schedule.

WithThisRing Posted: Feb 18, 2003 01:23 PM

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tarakinspa Posted: Feb 18, 2003 01:25 PM

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I say just go without her.

WithThisRing Posted: Feb 18, 2003 01:28 PM

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Jen2704 Posted: Feb 18, 2003 01:34 PM

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Go without her...pick the dress and if she doesn't like it that is her problem not yours!!

shelzyp Posted: Feb 18, 2003 01:42 PM

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I have found that the BM's that you think are going to the problem ones are usually never the ones that casue problems, but then someone esle in the BP seems to become a problem, that you least expected.

Don't let her have any say if she can't come. I had asked my Sis in law to go try on the dress in FL and it took her 4 weeks, so finally I said we are getting that dress, she had her time to weigh in on the dress. But then of course her measurements were wacked out so it created a problem anyway. People that can't attend certain things don't get the oppurtunity to make any decisions.

WithThisRing Posted: Feb 18, 2003 01:46 PM

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shelzyp Posted: Feb 18, 2003 01:49 PM

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Some people can not be relied on, and it is not worth gettin upset about. Maybe when she is about to get married again she will realize that she was unreliable.