Hi girls, I really need to vent. I'm at my wits end.
PLEASE DON'T QUOTE!
First, if you read this, thank you.
It’s a FMIL issue.
Let me start off by saying that I have always gone out of my way with this woman, and been the better person. She always throws it back at me because she is jealous of the fact that FH and I have a great relationship, and he does not have a great one with her, but that is NOT my problem. I have tried to bring her closer to us, and my family, but she is extremely rude, and hard to swallow. Her jealous ways, and control issues consume her.
She is a very phony woman. She loves to gossip, and she blabs everybody’s business. She is vindictive and manipulative. I am sick of it. FH is not that close with her, and feels the same way, but how much can I vent to him, it’s still his mother. An example of how she blabs is that she has told her friends how much we are paying per plate for our wedding. Tacky . She has the constant need to be the center of attention, and when she is not, she is even more witchy than normal. So onto the “this is the last straw”.
This past Saturday was our engagement party. MY PARENTS threw the party. They paid for the whole thing, and my mother planned it. It was BEAUTIFUL. My FMIL thinks that my family is ridiculous because we have so many parties. (I.E., she is jealous that we are all so close). Throughout the whole engagement process, she still finds the need to tell me that the fact that we are having this e party and wedding is ridiculous. Well, it’s our decision!
So, FH and I were both a little anxious over the e party, as it was 135 people, and we hate to be the center of attention. We agreed that we were going to go to the restaurant at 5:45 to have a drink and relax a little bit before the guests started arriving. The party was due to start at 6:30. We got there at 5:40, and FMIL was already there with a few of her friends, scrutinizing the place card table!! That set me off. I honestly feel that she did that on purpose so that her friends would think she was hosting the party. But honestly, WHY did she have to get there so early???
Ok, so I got over that. During the party, she interrupted FH and I rudely, while we were talking to my uncle, and asked us to tell the DJ to lower the music. It was backround dinner music!. We told her no.
She was taking pictures ALL NIGHT, but not one of FH and I. Can you imagine??
Then, at the end of the party, I was walking around and giving out favors while we said good night.I turn around and there she is at the favor table, with her friend, STEALING favors!!! Can you believe the nerve? I PAID FOR THOSE, MY MOTHER THREW THE PARTY!! Know your place!!!!! Oh my. I ran over there and embarrassed her.
Guess what?? FH and I did not even get a lousy card from his parents! Ok, I don’t even care about not giving a gift, but c’mon, no card??? How effin rude!!! And they never gave us anything, since we got engaged back in June.!!! My parents paid for the party, and yet, they still wrote us a beautiful card, and gave us a little gift.Besides, tht is their SON!
The day after the party, (Sunday), surprise surprise, no phone call. Not even to say, it was nice or anything. BUT, she calls FH’s brothers fiancé, in hopes of bashing me. (I am close to FH’s bros fiancé). She actually said to her, it was nice , but a little over the top! F U LADY!!!! She;s so fake! She then called my mother finally, last night, to tell her that everyone was raving about the party, they had a great time, the food was great, etc. SO she says to my mom “we would like to pay for half”. WHAT??? Where was this offer three months ago, when you were told about the engagement party? Now, because it was so awesome, you want to contribute? I truly believe she offered because she has already led her side to believe that she had some part of this!! Which normally, I would not mind, but she is an ungrateful woman and why give her any credit here?? My mother thanked her, but declined. She told her “just give it to the kids”. You know what the witch answered?? “ Well we are going to contribute to the wedding”. So I guess that means that we are not worthy of a card????? Your oldest son, getting married, and you can’t give a card???? I’m so pissed that as I type I feel my blood pressure rising! It’s not even about the money, it’s about the fact that she is a witch that is truly selfish. Ugh. If you read this whole thing. Thank you!
First, if you read this, thank you.
It’s a FMIL issue.
Let me start off by saying that I have always gone out of my way with this woman, and been the better person. She always throws it back at me because she is jealous of the fact that FH and I have a great relationship, and he does not have a great one with her, but that is NOT my problem. I have tried to bring her closer to us, and my family, but she is extremely rude, and hard to swallow. Her jealous ways, and control issues consume her.
She is a very phony woman. She loves to gossip, and she blabs everybody’s business. She is vindictive and manipulative. I am sick of it. FH is not that close with her, and feels the same way, but how much can I vent to him, it’s still his mother. An example of how she blabs is that she has told her friends how much we are paying per plate for our wedding. Tacky . She has the constant need to be the center of attention, and when she is not, she is even more witchy than normal. So onto the “this is the last straw”.
This past Saturday was our engagement party. MY PARENTS threw the party. They paid for the whole thing, and my mother planned it. It was BEAUTIFUL. My FMIL thinks that my family is ridiculous because we have so many parties. (I.E., she is jealous that we are all so close). Throughout the whole engagement process, she still finds the need to tell me that the fact that we are having this e party and wedding is ridiculous. Well, it’s our decision!
So, FH and I were both a little anxious over the e party, as it was 135 people, and we hate to be the center of attention. We agreed that we were going to go to the restaurant at 5:45 to have a drink and relax a little bit before the guests started arriving. The party was due to start at 6:30. We got there at 5:40, and FMIL was already there with a few of her friends, scrutinizing the place card table!! That set me off. I honestly feel that she did that on purpose so that her friends would think she was hosting the party. But honestly, WHY did she have to get there so early???
Ok, so I got over that. During the party, she interrupted FH and I rudely, while we were talking to my uncle, and asked us to tell the DJ to lower the music. It was backround dinner music!. We told her no.
She was taking pictures ALL NIGHT, but not one of FH and I. Can you imagine??
Then, at the end of the party, I was walking around and giving out favors while we said good night.I turn around and there she is at the favor table, with her friend, STEALING favors!!! Can you believe the nerve? I PAID FOR THOSE, MY MOTHER THREW THE PARTY!! Know your place!!!!! Oh my. I ran over there and embarrassed her.
Guess what?? FH and I did not even get a lousy card from his parents! Ok, I don’t even care about not giving a gift, but c’mon, no card??? How effin rude!!! And they never gave us anything, since we got engaged back in June.!!! My parents paid for the party, and yet, they still wrote us a beautiful card, and gave us a little gift.Besides, tht is their SON!
The day after the party, (Sunday), surprise surprise, no phone call. Not even to say, it was nice or anything. BUT, she calls FH’s brothers fiancé, in hopes of bashing me. (I am close to FH’s bros fiancé). She actually said to her, it was nice , but a little over the top! F U LADY!!!! She;s so fake! She then called my mother finally, last night, to tell her that everyone was raving about the party, they had a great time, the food was great, etc. SO she says to my mom “we would like to pay for half”. WHAT??? Where was this offer three months ago, when you were told about the engagement party? Now, because it was so awesome, you want to contribute? I truly believe she offered because she has already led her side to believe that she had some part of this!! Which normally, I would not mind, but she is an ungrateful woman and why give her any credit here?? My mother thanked her, but declined. She told her “just give it to the kids”. You know what the witch answered?? “ Well we are going to contribute to the wedding”. So I guess that means that we are not worthy of a card????? Your oldest son, getting married, and you can’t give a card???? I’m so pissed that as I type I feel my blood pressure rising! It’s not even about the money, it’s about the fact that she is a witch that is truly selfish. Ugh. If you read this whole thing. Thank you!
