hmmm what to do?

allornil Posted: May 19, 2010 01:27 PM

hmmm what to do?

I just got a text from FH's little cousin that said, 'xcited cuz I'm gonna be a jr bridesmaid!!!'

I was like cool...when?

answer...'yur weddig...durrr.'

umm....i love this kid. I'm really close to her. she lives in NC now and she's 11. she's made comments before about wanting to be in our wedding.

Problem is..I'm only having a MOH and BM.

now what do I do? I sort of want to include her somehow now. ugh.

and forgive the craptacular spelling but that's actually what she wrote lol.

kedra5 Posted: May 19, 2010 01:28 PM

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Hahahaa.....love the spelling!!

Are you totally against having her?? You could always just make room for her as a JBM!! Or like my FSIL is doing...have her as a 'special helper' for the day!!

allornil Posted: May 19, 2010 01:31 PM

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Posted by kedra5

Hahahaa.....love the spelling!!

Are you totally against having her?? You could always just make room for her as a JBM!! Or like my FSIL is doing...have her as a 'special helper' for the day!!

I just don't want to open a can of worms here. I have cousins too although they're all older. FH has a million cousins. I'm worried now it's going to be a free-for-all.

I really do love this kid though. Maybe she'll lose interest lol.

BlushandBashful Posted: May 19, 2010 01:31 PM

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Are you having a mass? If you don't want her as a JR BM, maybe she could bring the gifts to the altar?

allornil Posted: May 19, 2010 01:34 PM

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no mass. we're getting married at the RH.

I eliminated a BP so I wouldn't have drama in any way. My MOH could get a dress anywhere and wouldn't have to match anyone..etc.

I haven't even answered her.

grkbarbie Posted: May 19, 2010 01:43 PM

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i bet you the mother put her up to that text

allornil Posted: May 19, 2010 01:44 PM

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Posted by grkbarbie

i bet you the mother put her up to that text

hahahhaa trust me, this kid is a little diva. its allll her. her mom will eventually call me and tell me not to worry. honestly its annoying w the dress too bc shes in nc.

and we're going down there in 2 mos so I'm sure that will be all she talks about.

VCanizalez Posted: May 19, 2010 01:46 PM

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Awwww.... So sweet....
Dunno what to do...
'special helper' sounds great!!!

What does a JBM does anywas?

KN2011 Posted: May 19, 2010 01:49 PM

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Maybe just reply back with something like haha cute, but we aren't having a bridal party. You will be included in our special day!

allornil Posted: May 19, 2010 01:49 PM

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here she is. I think this started bc she was just a jr bridesmaid in another wedding...plus she loves me. she texts me all day.

kedra5 Posted: May 19, 2010 01:49 PM

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I'd go the special helper route...she can fluff your dress and get you drinks all day hahaha

allornil Posted: May 19, 2010 01:50 PM

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Posted by kedra5

I'd go the special helper route...she can fluff your dress and get you drinks all day hahaha

hmmm thats a good idea..like a bridal attendant right?

suzie411 Posted: May 19, 2010 01:51 PM

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she's adorable!!!!! How do you say no to her!! haha

tricky situation. . .i don't know!!!!!

kedra5 Posted: May 19, 2010 02:00 PM

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Posted by allornil

Posted by kedra5

I'd go the special helper route...she can fluff your dress and get you drinks all day hahaha

hmmm thats a good idea..like a bridal attendant right?

Right...she can just do little things to help you out before and after the wedding

MissingLI Posted: May 19, 2010 02:06 PM

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Posted by kedra5

Posted by allornil

Posted by kedra5

I'd go the special helper route...she can fluff your dress and get you drinks all day hahaha

hmmm thats a good idea..like a bridal attendant right?

Right...she can just do little things to help you out before and after the wedding

ITA. This is a great idea!

MrsTarricone2B Posted: May 19, 2010 02:10 PM

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I agree with the 'special helper' idea. Tell her your only having a moh and bm but since she's so special to you you want her to be your special assistant!

Burhart1111 Posted: May 19, 2010 03:47 PM

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My neice really wanted to be a part of my wedding (She's 9) but I didn't want things to get out of control either (There are 12 kids between me and the future hubby!) But she is my Goddaughter and I wanted to include her somehow. I gave her the 'Special Helper' title. Her job is to hand out programs at the ceremony, make sure people sign our guestbook, etc. I am even getting a little wedding throw away camera and asking her to be my 'backup photographer' in case they miss something important lol. She feels like she has a real job, and I get a little extra help...it worked out perfect to make this decision! The best advice I can give...is go with your gut...if the other kids start asking to be involved, give them little things to do also!!