hmph...what do you think??? (Looooong)
FH is currently living in London. The next time he'll be over is for the wedding. He's most likely flying out on the Tuesday before the wedding due to his inability to take time off of work. His mom will come out on Wednesday and I've offered to have her stay at my parents' house for Wednesday & Thursday nights. She and my parents have never met, so she wanted to come out ASAP in order to meet them. My parents were much more laid back about the whole thing--interested in meeting her, but...
Anyway, last night FH tells me that his New York friends want him to come into the city the Thursday before the wedding for a 'boys' night' So I asked him--and what about your Mom? what's she going to do that night?? He basically just thought she'd stay with me at my parents' house!! I don't want it to sound like I don't want her around, but I feel like he's totally ditching me!!! I don't really know his mom all that well and my parents certainly don't!
So, I told him I really wasn't comfortable with the situation, so then he said that he hadn't meant for her to stay with me that night (what..?) and that she could just come into the city with him and catch up with some friends of hers that were spending a few days in the city. He said he would pay for her to stay there. Now I just feel terrible, because if he tells her that, she's going to think it's because I don't want her to stay with me. When I suggested he go in on Wednesday instead, he said he would have her change her flight to Thursday. He's making me crazy!! and I've gotten to the point where if he wants to go on Thursday and leave her with me it's fine, I'm just annoyed that he's being so thoughtless. Never mind the fact that I'm sure there will be a million little details left to take care of, I also wanted to spend Friday with my MOH--relaxing....manicures, massage, etc. Now I have to worry about when he's going to get his hungover self onto the train to come back out here. Dont get me wrong, I really don't have ANY problem whatsoever with the bachelor party part, I just feel like he's leaving us in the lurch to be with his friends.
He told me not to worry about his mom, that the weekend's not about her and she should know this and everyone cant' cater to her or make their plans around her, etc., but I just feel like someone has to take care of the poor woman and if it's not him, then by default it's me...sorry, just needed to vent!!!![]()
Anyway, last night FH tells me that his New York friends want him to come into the city the Thursday before the wedding for a 'boys' night' So I asked him--and what about your Mom? what's she going to do that night?? He basically just thought she'd stay with me at my parents' house!! I don't want it to sound like I don't want her around, but I feel like he's totally ditching me!!! I don't really know his mom all that well and my parents certainly don't!
So, I told him I really wasn't comfortable with the situation, so then he said that he hadn't meant for her to stay with me that night (what..?) and that she could just come into the city with him and catch up with some friends of hers that were spending a few days in the city. He said he would pay for her to stay there. Now I just feel terrible, because if he tells her that, she's going to think it's because I don't want her to stay with me. When I suggested he go in on Wednesday instead, he said he would have her change her flight to Thursday. He's making me crazy!! and I've gotten to the point where if he wants to go on Thursday and leave her with me it's fine, I'm just annoyed that he's being so thoughtless. Never mind the fact that I'm sure there will be a million little details left to take care of, I also wanted to spend Friday with my MOH--relaxing....manicures, massage, etc. Now I have to worry about when he's going to get his hungover self onto the train to come back out here. Dont get me wrong, I really don't have ANY problem whatsoever with the bachelor party part, I just feel like he's leaving us in the lurch to be with his friends.
He told me not to worry about his mom, that the weekend's not about her and she should know this and everyone cant' cater to her or make their plans around her, etc., but I just feel like someone has to take care of the poor woman and if it's not him, then by default it's me...sorry, just needed to vent!!!
