home from arizona but bad news *long*

So i'm back from Arizona. The trip was great-we had so much fun but we came back to some bad news. First off, i called into work on friday to let them know i wasn't going to be there today-i even followed through by calling on Monday to make sure they got my message. Then Monday night we get a call that FH's uncle has died. He had leukemia-we knew it would happen one day but not this soon. He died on saturday and they didnt want to call us then b/c they didnt want to ruin our trip and since we changed our plans-it would have been too much to swicth yet another flight. So we come home and we have the wake today. FH wants me to go to the funeral which of course i'm going to go-it's now my family too and i feel it's only right to pay my respects-especially b /c i knew his uncle-went to his benefits and such. I call my job to let them know what happened and would you believe i got s h i t for it! I'm beyond livid right now. They told me to not even bother coming in for the rest of the week and we'll talk on friday about what they're going to do with me next week. I'm a teacher in a daycare. Now i love my job-i love my room. BUT someone died. I'm sorry my cousin got married and i went away. Im sorry someone died...b/c apparently these things are not supposed to happen. I'm not supposed to take extra days off for circumstances beyond my control. Now i'm not about to sit down and get lectured-i won't do it. Im not taking days off to go frolicking with my friends. Why am i being punished-i gave them plenty of notice-i did what i was supposed to. OK this is turning into a letter in itself so i'll stop now-but thanks to who read this.

first off, im glad you had a nice time in arizona! second, i'm so sorry about fh's uncle. what news to come home to. it's a hard time you and fh's family are going through and you're in my thoughts and i really dont think work should be giving you sh*t for this. you didnt know that coming back from vacation this would happen with fh's uncle. i think it's uncalled for, for your employers to say that to you. like you said, its a death, not a party and second vacation. granted they are probably surprised and caught off guard that you aren't coming back yet cuz of the funeral but that's no way to treat a situation like this. i know how schools work (i work in the public schools though, not a day care) and they should especially be understanding of a death in the family. i wouldn't let them lecture you either. stand up for yourself if they carry it any further.

that's really wrong of them. i'm sorry for your FH's loss. I definitely think you should stand your ground on this. make sure to get a letter from the funeral home so that you'll have the documents to back you up.

i'm sorry for your fh's loss

and you're right you shouldnt be punished for events that are out of your control...what are your options?

tell them to go f*ck themselves.

well....,maybe not in so many words :) but u get the gist.

aww so sorry!

i hope things start looking up!

how inconsiderate or your boss to scold you at this time.. a family member has died. thats just rude and hurtful! dont let them talk down to you when you go in to 'talk' to them. stand up for yourself!

im sorry for you/FH's loss.






how was the wedding in AZ?

First, I am glad you had a great time

Second, I am so sorry about your FH's uncle.

Third, That is just ridiculous! I have never heard something so dumb. Does your employer not have a heart or family?

im def not letting them talk down to me. Yes this was not exactly the best timed thing with coming back from vacay-but um i dont think you can plan a death. If they try to switch me to part time or take me out of my room as a teacher im going to basically tell them that i cant continue to work for them nemore. Having bosses who can't be somewhat understanding in this type of situation are obviously people who i dont want to work for.

The wedding was fun-sooo different than new york-people showed up in jeans which i was appalled by. But, the food was decent and we had a blast busting a move on the dance floor!

Glad to hear you had a great time in Arizona

soo sorry about your loss also soo sorry for the bs that your job is putting you through-it is ridiculous and they should not be giving you any crap for it-things do happen and we do not choose when these things happen-stand your ground

Coming from a family business, I see both sides of the situation. It's hard when you rely on people to be there and you have to scramble to cover their work load, especially in day care when kids grow accustomed to one teacher etc, etc. I'm sure you'll hear that on Friday. I also see your side. LIFE HAPPENS. If we were able to control everything, I'm sure we'd all be millionaires. Being a family business, I think we're more lenient than most companies. FH is constantly telling me how lucky he is to work for my family because they understand what it's like to have a family and to deal with family issues. His ex got very sick after her gastric bypass and he missed a lot of work. Most jobs would have let him go, but my father and uncle understood. they did sit him down and say what I said above about relying etc etc, but he still had his job at the end of the day. it's hard to find a job in today's world that gets family and gets that life happens. Maybe this isn't the job for you and this is a blessing in disguise cause the right one is just around the corner.

GL

i am so sorry about the death in FH's family, i dont think your job should penalize you because of that! that is just wrong, and its not your fault it is bad timing!