Honeymoon Advice Pleeease!

I need some advice from unbiased parties so I am turning to you girls.

Let me give you the story. My FH will be starting his 3rd here of Med school so he has rotations all of next year not allowing us any real time for a honeymoon. Today he just told me that he was trying to do an elective in January so he has some extra free time. They are allowing him to do the elective but in December. Im getting married in January.

FH thinks it will be a good idea to do a 'pre-honeymoon' otherwise called a plain-old 'vacation' in December so this way we both get to get away somewhere and perhaps de-stress before the wedding.

I am not liking this idea for 3 reasons. First, I want to have a 'honeymoon' where we can relax and enjoy being H&W. Second, I dont want to be so tanned on my wedding day. I am very fair. I was going to do 2 or 3 mini tanning sessions for the wedding but I was not going to look like I just went away to a tropical island! Third, There will be soooo much to do before the wedding I cant see myself taking a week or more off to go away and not being stressed out that Im not getting other things for the wedding done.

What do you girls think?? Any and all opinions are welcome!

THANKS for reading this!

yea im not a fan of the pre-wedding 'vacation'. thats too close to your wedding that you will have SO many last minute things to do and get ready for. and if you are away- you wont be able to relax because you will be constantly thinking about what you have to get done when you get back.
but i dont know of any other way that you guys can have a real honeymoon if he cant take the time??
there is no way he can take the elective in January?? Maybe- long shot- you can switch your wedding to December?

im sorry thats not fair to you!

Yeaaa I'm not diggin the idea sorry.... it will be a vacation. Honeslty I don't think you will relax at all you will be so nervous that the trip could be a waste. I know myself i would be a wreck if I went away right before my wedding. I de-stress by being proactiv and doing something, getting away would make me even worse when I got back.

It won't be a HM, and your right you want to celebrate being H&W why not do a long weekend after the wedding then do a super awesome HM aftre he graduates he will feel more relaxed then too...

Ye, Im soo confused!
I agree with all you have to say! I def don't think I will be able to relax! He thinks its not fair that he cant take a vacation at all because of my preferences and thinks I should delegate work for the first week in Dec. 'It's only 5-7 days' :/

He may be able to get a day or two after the wedding but its not enough to go anywhere so we will have to wait until 2011 to do a real honeymoon.

Tried to see if he can take the elective in Feb or March but its a NO GO for anytime after December.

Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
DO I really not want to take a vacation knowing I wont be able to go anywhere until Feb 2011? NO, but I don't want a pre-honeymoon. I said if it was Nov or earlier it would be a diff situation but he cant switch it anymore.

I guess Im going to wait until August to see if there is any way he can get 4 days off after the wedding - that is when he can speak with people at the hospital - I hope they have a heart!

Thanks for your input!

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Posted by Nina1010

It kinda takes away from the HM...not a fan.

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I know - but its that or no HM :/

But its too late to change the date of the wedding... and I kind of think its silly at this point to change the entire wedding agenda for a HM.. it will be waaay too complicated and I dont want to wait longer to marry him.

I'm trying to weigh what the better option is... going on a vacation before the wedding because we both need/want one or waiting until 2011 to take our first vacation as H&W...

either way it wont be considered a HM and Its a loose loose!

So FH & I are in a similiar boat. I'm starting my PhD two months before the wedding. There's no way I am comfortable taking off from a PhD program- especially when I've just begun.

Therefore, we are NOT going on a honeymoon right away. FH completely understands, that we are going to have to wait either until my winter break (if I even have one that is of any substantial length), or we are going to have to wait about 7/8 months until the summer. I still think it will be just as special, because it's still the first vacation that you're going on as husband and wife, and we can still do all of the honeymoon stuff.

I am, however, not a fan of the pre-wedding honeymoon. Because then it's not your first vacation as husband and wife.