Honoring those who passed away??

What are you doing in your ceremony, reception, programs to honor those who can't be there for your special day?

My FH parents are no longer alive, we both have grandparents that have passed away (he never knew his paternal grandparents either), I lost a cousin over 20 years ago, so we want to try and avoid naming names...

I was thinking of having a moment of silence during the ceremony to remember those that could not be there and also putting it on the program...

Between FH and I, we have A LOT of people who have passed away that were super close to us. We will most likely not be putting their names in a program, just because there are so many of them (we'll probably have a broad mention about those that are in our hearts and here in spirit). Additionally, quite a few of them died tragically, so we don't think it is the best time to bring them up specifically.

Personally, I am going to do a couple bouquet charms.

That's a nice idea... I'm gonna have to ask my family for lace or something... I also saw this..

I am going to list them in the program. I have a lot of people to (grandparents, cousins, uncles) but they all have meant a lot to me and IMO if i am going to have a paragraph with one name what is the harm in adding a few more names.
I am considering bouquet charms but I dont want anyone to get annoyed if i leave someone out...like I would like to put my maternal grandfather; but i would not want to put my paternal grandmother and think my dad would be annoyed.
the program seems to be the easiest way

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Posted by SoonToBeMrsCali

That's a nice idea... I'm gonna have to ask my family for lace or something... I also saw this..

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Love this!

We are going to have a collage frame with pictures of our loved ones who passed and one of the opening on the frame will have the poem shown below.

We also have a floating memorial candle (same as our Unity Candle only shorter) that will be lit throughout the reception next to the frame. It's engraved with 'In Loving Memory of our Dearly Departed'

EDIT: Also in the back of the program with the Thank Yous, we are going to write something in honor of them as well.

I bought a floating candle vase that says 'This light shines as a symbol of lives and loves remembered.' I'm going to place it on the piano.


http://www.allforyourwedding.com/light-shines-floating-memorial-vase-and-candle-wedding-p-2886.html

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Posted by BlushandBashful

Between FH and I, we have A LOT of people who have passed away that were super close to us. We will most likely not be putting their names in a program, just because there are so many of them (we'll probably have a broad mention about those that are in our hearts and here in spirit). Additionally, quite a few of them died tragically, so we don't think it is the best time to bring them up specifically.

Personally, I am going to do a couple bouquet charms.

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i feel the same way. same thing here. we're probably just going to have something short written in the program and definitely a memorial candle, but no names specifically.

i wouldn't want to forget someone and then someone else is upset at my wedding. if it's just a blanket 'those we have lost' statement, then it's OK.

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Posted by FutureJOC

We are going to have a collage frame with pictures of our loved ones who passed and one of the opening on the frame will have the poem shown below.

We also have a floating memorial candle (same as our Unity Candle only shorter) that will be lit throughout the reception next to the frame. It's engraved with 'In Loving Memory of our Dearly Departed'

EDIT: Also in the back of the program with the Thank Yous, we are going to write something in honor of them as well.

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love this idea!!! but it brought tears to my eyes just reading it on the boards...i dont want people to tear up at the wedding thinking of some of the tragic deaths that have occurred.

one of my junior BM (FH's cousin) wrote this poem last week... I totally just remembered about it and I think we should use it... what do you ladies think?

God saw you were getting tired
And a cure was not meant to be
So he put his arms around you
And whispered come with me
With tearful eyes we watched you
As we saw you pass away
Although we love you deeply
We could not make you stay
Your golden heart stopped beating
Hard working hands at rest
God broke our hearts to prove to us
He only takes the best.

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Posted by FutureJOC

We are going to have a collage frame with pictures of our loved ones who passed and one of the opening on the frame will have the poem shown below.

We also have a floating memorial candle (same as our Unity Candle only shorter) that will be lit throughout the reception next to the frame. It's engraved with 'In Loving Memory of our Dearly Departed'

EDIT: Also in the back of the program with the Thank Yous, we are going to write something in honor of them as well.

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I love that poem. We are using it also, just have to decide about candles or photos.

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Posted by SoonToBeMrsCali

That's a nice idea... I'm gonna have to ask my family for lace or something... I also saw this..

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I Absoultely love this - where did you find it?

I'm going to do a memorial charm on my bouquet for my grandma. I tear up every time I think that she won't actually be there :(

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Posted by SoInLove916

That poem about 'getting tired' was on both my grandma's and fh's gmas prayer card thing. I tear everything I read it..

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and I thought she wrote it...lol

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Posted by adelz

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Posted by SoonToBeMrsCali

That's a nice idea... I'm gonna have to ask my family for lace or something... I also saw this..

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I Absoultely love this - where did you find it?

I'm going to do a memorial charm on my bouquet for my grandma. I tear up every time I think that she won't actually be there :(

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I haven't found this vase in particular, just saw a picture on another board.

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Posted by SoonToBeMrsCali

one of my junior BM (FH's cousin) wrote this poem last week... I totally just remembered about it and I think we should use it... what do you ladies think?

God saw you were getting tired
And a cure was not meant to be
So he put his arms around you
And whispered come with me
With tearful eyes we watched you
As we saw you pass away
Although we love you deeply
We could not make you stay
Your golden heart stopped beating
Hard working hands at rest
God broke our hearts to prove to us
He only takes the best.

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OK this officially just made me cry. Yesterday was the 2 year anniversary of my grandfathers passing and this poem just hit a spot!! I love it!! Thank you for sharing......

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Posted by SoonToBeMrsCali

one of my junior BM (FH's cousin) wrote this poem last week... I totally just remembered about it and I think we should use it... what do you ladies think?

God saw you were getting tired
And a cure was not meant to be
So he put his arms around you
And whispered come with me
With tearful eyes we watched you
As we saw you pass away
Although we love you deeply
We could not make you stay
Your golden heart stopped beating
Hard working hands at rest
God broke our hearts to prove to us
He only takes the best.

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Totally just made me tear up completely.