how and what to say when your mom isnt around anymore...
nyjw0307
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how and what to say when your mom isnt around anymore...
I really dont know how to react. My mom hasnt called or talked to me in like a month. she knows this is the time that i need her the most. sad thing is i cant even get ahold of her becuase i dont know where she is. i dont know if i should be mad at her for just up and leaving me and not talking to me or should i just move on. of course its a long story. but is there anyone in my shoes where they dont have their mother with them for the big day or to plan it. its a girl thing all girls know that.
PeterNina Mom
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OMG, I don't what to tell you! It is a lot easier when you mom has passed away, but in your case just tell people exactly what you said that it is a long story and your mom just isn't in the picture right now. Maybe some day soon you will be able to get in touch with her and be friends again. Good luck! We will all say a little prayer that she will come around Remember you always have everyone on this site to speak with.
nyjw0307
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thank you... i am trying so hard to keep faith in the fact that i know my mom is not going to do what my real dad did to me. but after each day its hard. its really hard. right now it does kind of feel as if she did pass. its sad thing but its true. the last memory i have of my mother was in ICU in the hospital becuase she tried killing herself. and then i tried telling her to get help there are people that will help you. and she kicked me out of the hospital room. and thats was a month ago. they tell me shes in rehab but there are little facts that point out that shes might not be. but thank you for the prayers i really do need them alot.
LImama
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I'm so very sorry to hear that you are going through this. It sounds like there are some very deep issues that you obviously can't go into on a public chat board. I hope you have some people close to you, another relative, aunt, sibling that you can confide in and share this joyous time of planning as well as your other concerns about your mom.
As far as what to say to people, if they are close to you there should be nothing needed to say. A simple my mom isn't well right now, or my mom and I aren't getting along right now, should answer all questions.
You asked about other girls not having their mom to help with the planning -- post that question on the Brides Helping Brides board. I have read of a good number of brides who have lost their moms or whose moms have chosen to not be part of the planning. I'm sure they will respond to you and give you lots of support.
I can't begin to imagine how you must feel. Please post again or FM if I can help. Plenty of girls have done this without their mom, I know it hurts but you will get through this and have a beautiful future with your love.
Best wishes to you
nyjw0307
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thank you.. i am new to this site so i am trying to get a hang with this. lol
yeah i talk to others in my family but not much the only people i talk to is my two sisters. i dont have much family around anymore. but the family i do is giong to help me. with the support. they live to far away to really help me with the planning.
LImama
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Definitely post your questions on the Brides Helping Brides board, and on the 07 Brides board. There are so many helpful, generous, loving people on these boards, I know someone will jump in and help you with your planning. Those 2 boards see a lot more action than the ones you've been posting on!
You'll find lots of support as well as great ideas here on LIW!
Best wishes to you and good luck with your difficult situation!
PeterNina Mom
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Posted by nyjw0307
thank you.. i am new to this site so i am trying to get a hang with this. lol
yeah i talk to others in my family but not much the only people i talk to is my two sisters. i dont have much family around anymore. but the family i do is giong to help me. with the support. they live to far away to really help me with the planning.
You are doing very well. Be thankful for the family you have around you right now. In time God will bring your mom around too. We are here to listen for you any time you want.
nyjw0307
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Oh yes i am very thankful... I know God will help and all.. just hurts that my Mom is making these mistakes...but i know in time she will see what shes doing. just takes time. but with time waiting it hurts a lot. Thank you for everything.
rachie
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I am so sorry you are going through this -- FM me if you need to talk. Does mom know you are engaged
rojerono
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I am so sorry that your mother isn't with you. My mom passed away not quite a year ago, so I am doing this without my mother.
I don't know that it is 'easier' becuase my mother is dead and therefore has a 'legitimate excuse' not to assist me with my plans - but I do know how much it hurts regardless.
If you ever need someone to talk with, let me know.
nyjw0307
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THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THE PRAYERS!! it worked. i got to talk to my mom twice today! we have a lot to talk and work out about! but i think its going to work out! just its going to be a long time before i get to see her! she still wont be able to help and be apart of the planning and might nto get to be there. but i know for sure now she is in rehab and getting help and thats all the matters!
I am sorry to hear about your mother passing! I wish you well with the planning. i know its hard to think about her not being there and all. but keep your chin up and high because no matter what she will be there to see you get married! if you need any one to talk to pm me!
