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ughh i think its tacky when ppl ask! but if someone asks me depending on if we need ppl or not i would say yes.. but if we had too many ppl then i would say we have a limit and we are at max!
i dont think it's tacky at all. in my situation, a lot of my friends are single, HOWEVER, they all know each other and due to my large a$$ family, I cannot allow them to bring a guest, but, as time goes on and I see who responds, and whose in a serious relationship AND I've met them, most likely i'll allow it. i just dont want people filling a spot for no reason.
Posted by AngnShaun
The only person that did that was Shauns moms 70 year old cousin... i would have invited him with a guest had i known he was seeing someone...
I would just be honest with everyone though.
I agree with the previous post that it's tacky to even ask! But then again I look at it as, they are invited to the wedding so I have to have some relationship with them (unless it's my in-laws list which is a different story) and I should be able to tell the truth. I have told everyone who asked that there really just isn't enough room. We invited 300 and it just causes problems if one person brings a guest and others see that. I just kindly tell them that 'I'm so sorry but we only invited people in serious relationships or married with guests, we just simply don't have the room.'
Posted by FutureLW
Posted by AngnShaun
The only person that did that was Shauns moms 70 year old cousin... i would have invited him with a guest had i known he was seeing someone...
I would just be honest with everyone though.
Ha, that's actually really cute![]()
OMG. i think its tacky when they ask. this is the biggest probelm i have, na dFH doesnt understand what the proplem is and its bc the way the RSVP is worded. umm no!!!! if the outside says Mr. Joe Smith, one person has been accounted!!! i have had no problem telling them that they are coming without a guest. im sorry but i dont have an unlimited amout of money and room!!
Posted by ourwedding9510
'I'm so sorry but we only invited people in serious relationships or married with guests, we just simply don't have the room.'
Nobody ended up asking us. But if they asked I don't think I woulda said no to them to bring a date. I don't think its tacky to say no tho. If u can't afford or ur at the max with how many people ur room holds u don't have a choice and ur guests *should* understand.
Posted by AngnShaun
The only person that did that was Shauns moms 70 year old cousin... i would have invited him with a guest had i known he was seeing someone...
I would just be honest with everyone though.
we had a few people do this. we didn't say anything bc we were going to wait and see if we reached the number we wanted and if we started going over we were going to say no, but we never reached it so we never said anything. 2 of those people gave us $40 for them AND their date. i wish we said something.
I have only had 2 peeps do this...One invited a date, but since her parents aren't coming its fine that she brings a guest, and second is FH's cousin who is now in a relationship, and that is fine too.
Posted by brittndave
we had a few people do this. we didn't say anything bc we were going to wait and see if we reached the number we wanted and if we started going over we were going to say no, but we never reached it so we never said anything. 2 of those people gave us $40 for them AND their date. i wish we said something.
for us it kind of worked out....people didnt start asking to bring guests until closer to the wedding when i was able to tell that we had enough No's and could add on other guests....hth
I plan on handling it on a case by case basis. Anyone that it became/will become an issue for I told them that if as the wedding comes closer, they want to bring someone to let me know, I will see what my guest list looks like and my no's but that I can not make any promises. Everyone has understood that explanation.
Generally its on a case by case basis....but if you just wanna bring a random date then the answer is no. If you're afraid to go a wedding alone then then answer is no. On your invited is you YOUR NAME! I dont have space and $$ to accomodate your comfort levels.
