How do i deal ??** UPDATE

Jumbles Posted: Mar 21, 2007 07:54 PM

How do i deal ??** UPDATE

with a MOH who is just not into the whole wedding thing???..she doesnt care when i call her to tell her anything about my wedding , she doesnt even get excited , she lives in florida so she cant come with me anywhere to plan..but i wish she would still seem interested

** I want to thank all the girls who told me to speak with my friend and try to work things out .. well i did and she has chosen to step down as my MOH , i was honest with my feelings and she didnt care ... it was alot of financial things , and she really didnt think she should be responisible for these expenses and that the other girls should pay for her.. i didnt think it was fair so a decision was made and im a little sad cause a friendship probably will be over , but i wanted to be fair to all my BMs..thanks again girls im glad i know now rather than a feww weeks before my wedding

soon2BMrsMcD Posted: Mar 21, 2007 07:56 PM

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sounds like you may need to tell her how you are feeling!! is she a friend or family?

cherish83 Posted: Mar 21, 2007 07:58 PM

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Posted by soon2BMrsMcD

sounds like you may need to tell her how you are feeling!! is she a friend or family?

i agree. if you dont tell her, its going to only get worse and once u have a bridezilla moment, you may explode!!

jessamyn78 Posted: Mar 21, 2007 07:58 PM

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I also think you need to tell her how you feel. She should be taking this seriously and not blowing you off when you want to discuss the wedding. Her job is to support you, not stress you!

Jumbles Posted: Mar 21, 2007 08:00 PM

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she is my best friend since i was 5

jessamyn78 Posted: Mar 21, 2007 08:02 PM

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Wow, that's tough. Have you mentioned anything to her about how you feel?

Mrs.D08 Posted: Mar 21, 2007 08:02 PM

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Just be honest and tell her how you feel.

Jumbles Posted: Mar 21, 2007 08:07 PM

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we spoke about this before ... she is always so stressed ..just bought a house ..just bought a dog ...has no money..hates her job..i understand what she is going through but im excited she can be excited too you know? she was happy when i first got engaged then she came for my e-party and acts differently now like she isnt interested

ant n tilde Posted: Mar 21, 2007 08:07 PM

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is she single/ not in a serious relationship?

i think that makes it harder for some girls to get excited about their friends' weddings

Jumbles Posted: Mar 21, 2007 08:08 PM

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she is single was in a bad relationship for 4 years and has been single over a year

ant n tilde Posted: Mar 21, 2007 08:10 PM

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Posted by Jumbles

she is single was in a bad relationship for 4 years and has been single over a year

yeah it is probably hard for her to get excited for you - but i am not making excuses for her. . .she is your MOH and should be there to support you!

Definitely say something to her!

Jumbles Posted: Mar 21, 2007 08:12 PM

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i have in the past after my e-party and i wasnt nasty to her but she got defensive and we had an argument ..so it's not a easy conversation

kimNanthony Posted: Mar 21, 2007 08:12 PM

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I expected certain people to be more excited for it also and I have been let down. Its kind of disappointing when you can't share your happiness with the people you should be able to.

Jumbles Posted: Mar 21, 2007 08:13 PM

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thats exactly how i feel im so bummed ..we have so many good memories

Jumbles Posted: Mar 22, 2007 05:21 PM

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bump for update

LuvMyAlfonse Posted: Mar 22, 2007 05:24 PM

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Posted by Jumbles

she has chosen to step down as my MOH , i was honest with my feelings and she didnt care ... it was alot of financial things , and she really didnt think she should be responisible for these expenses and that the other girls should pay for her.. i didnt think it was fair so a decision was made and im a little sad cause a friendship probably will be over , but i wanted to be fair to all my BMs..thanks again girls im glad i know now rather than a feww weeks before my wedding

I'm so sorry... but like you said, better now than later.

Jumbles Posted: Mar 22, 2007 05:26 PM

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thank you for all your support

JeanetteandSteve Posted: Mar 22, 2007 06:45 PM

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i'm sorry that happened, but it really is so much better that you spoke up now. i hope it doesn't mean the end of your friendship, but if you decide it's not worth it, don't let it put a damper on the rest of your wedding plans. this is the happiest time of your life...make sure you enjoy it!!

Mizzdimple Posted: Mar 22, 2007 07:32 PM

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I am so sorry....money can get in the way sometimes. If she is a true friend it will last and you will both work things out.

Inkedupkitten Posted: Mar 22, 2007 08:00 PM

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WOW!! ***!>!>! People are so selfish.. How can she do that to you..... I understand people have different views and thats all good BUT if you were close enough to have her as your MOH then she should be swallowing her ISSUES and be happy for you.....

Sorry hun.. Good Luck with everything