This is something I've been trying to figure out since we moved in together almost a year ago. We tried doing things on a weekly basis, like I wash dishes one week and then he washes them the next. But it always seemed like the dishes would pile up (courtesy of him) during my week Now, we're on a different system where I take care of the dishes and he takes out the garbage, but what about the rest of it like vacuuming? cleaning the bathroom? etc? What do you all do about this? Thanks!
steph4777
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IF one cooks the other washes the dishes. Although I seem to be the only on that cooks since we moved in together. He used to cook all the time when we had our own apartments.
He'll clean up his side of the bedroom and his 'entertainment' room. He also takes out the trash. I pretty much do everything else.
BlondeJD
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I'm just trying to avoid feeling bitter about the fact that he really only picks up after himself, but the more 'general' cleaning like mopping, vacuuming, cleaning cabinets and counters always seems to fall on me. Where is that phone number for Merry Maids? J/K
aliciahelene
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I pretty much do all of the cleaning right now, Dh works over 60 plus hours per week..so I really dont mind, Im fortunate to work very few hours and go to full time school..so I have more time and Im not as exhasuted at the endof the day. He does cook and clean up a few nights a week, does the trash and recycling and does any car maintenance stuff. Eventually, we will get a cleaning lady, when Im working full time.
Chloegirl
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We got a cleaning lady!
I do daily maintenace...but there was too much for me to do alone...it would take hours away from my weekend. DH would clean what I asked him and when I asked but I hated being the dictator...this works a lot better for us.
RedHead
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divide up the chores...LOLOLOLOLOLOL Yeah...
This makes me laugh...when we first moved in we each were divided equally on chores...NOW 2 years later...I do all the cleaning pretty much... But i have to give him credit he does the cooking
dm24angel
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HE vacuums and soemtimes dusts and takes out the garbage ( though it has to be overflowing) and thats about it!
BlondeJD
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Posted by dm24angel
HE vacuums and soemtimes dusts and takes out the garbage ( though it has to be overflowing) and thats about it!
What I love is when the garbage is overflowing which he knows and he's like, 'what's that smell?' Me: 'The garbage.' Him: 'What's in there?' Me: 'If I had to guess, I'd say 'garbage.''
Karen H
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We never really sat down and divided things, we just do stuff and it gets done.
He can't cook to save his life, and I enjoy cooking so I handle that, and do the dishes just because I can get them done in a few minutes and he's so darn scared of breaking something that it's comical watching him He does do the breakfast dishes after I leave for work (he works from a home office) and he sets up the coffee maker for the next morning.
He handles things like car maintenance and moving heavy stuff. He takes out garbage, and other stuff like recycling and can returns when I point it out.
He'll use the swiffer or vacuum if I ask and help change the sheets on the bed, fold laundry, etc. He's just not too motivated to do it on his own. (I'm working on that slowly)
Val R.
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Posted by Chloegirl
DH would clean what I asked him and when I asked but I hated being the dictator..QUOTE]
This is the only way I get him to clean!! Well... he has been better lately, not that he cleans on his own, he just doesn't huff & puff about it anymore!!!
As for daily chores, I always cook, so most nights I will ask him to do dishes, especially if I am going to the gym after dinner or if I worked a longer day then normal. But if he is really beat after work or had a late day, then I will do both. It's compromise!!
Julestrd
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When we first moved in together it was whoever cooked the other cleaned, and it worked for a little while, then I left and he took care of everything on his own for 6 months and did a good job, but when I came back from my trip I was always cleaning, he would attempt to clean but it wasn't to my standards so now I just clean except the dishes and trash he is good at that
Happybride2005
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He does most of the cooking. I do the dishes. he doesn't use enough soap on the pad.lol he even cleans out the closet.
Summer05
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Posted by dm24angel
HE vacuums and soemtimes dusts and takes out the garbage ( though it has to be overflowing) and thats about it!
Your FH knows how to use a vacuum... I wish!! My FH takes out the garbage and cooks sometimes... when he does he has to clean up after himself b/c he uses every pan and utensils we own!!
Other than that I get stuck w/ the rest!
MrsK-in-June05
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He does the chores and I supervise!! Actually, I vaccummed today and I made the bed. The rules of the house..if you are last to use it, clean it. I refuse to take out the trash because I saw a roach in the compactor...2 years ago! We have a dishwasher, thank goodness, cause I don't think my manicurist would allow me to do dishes!!!I always end up cleaning the bathroom because it is so nasty after he shaves and he just stares at it.
I do it ALL! When we had ferrets, he was in charge of cleaning their cage but since they died, he does nothing. Thats ok b/c whenever he 'cleans up' I have to re-do it anyway.
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Posted by diamondgrlie
Divide??? What the heck does that word mean? .
our system is if it needs to get done, we both get busy...
if one is doing HW or somthing, the other knows that education or somthing else is important.
