FH are getting married 5/31/03. We've decided to wait til our 1 year anniversary to TTC. I feel so maternal, I just want my baby now. To hold and to love, and to give my all to.
Even tho' we both agree, waiting 1 year is the best way to go (I wanted immediately, he wanted 2-3 years). After discussing it and considering each other, and the fact that I'm 32 yrs, we agreed on 1 year.
BUT, I can't stop thinking about the baby that I want NOW. How do you cope?
Stef28
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We decided about 5 months after we were married that we would start at the end of 2002. From Feb until Dec. it was driving me crazy waiting. There wasn't much to do except plan for it. And that's what I did, I lost weight, got healthy, went to see all of my doctors to make sure I was doing everything right to prepare for TTC.
Now it's a different kind of waiting. After 4 months of TTC and no luck so far -- the waiting it completely different and worse sometimes.
But the time will come -- be patient and enjoy married life with your husband first. Because that alone time will be all over once a baby comes into the picture and you can never get it back.
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We said that when Patrick turns 2 we will try again. Patrick will be 2 in JULY!!! (OMG!!!! ) But, there is no when on God's green earth that we will be able to. So it'll probably be another year. It is hard!! The waiting the anticipation. Especially since the 3 other couples I was pregnant with 2 had another & the other is due in June!!! I also think about the age thing. I will be 33 in Oct. So I might end up having the next one when I'm 35. Just know that it will happen. And this first year will be fantastic! And you will get to take time & enjoy being married! You'll be fine!!
LnP2003
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liz.... don't worry - maybe he'll change his mind like pete did - pete said 2-3 years in the beginning too.... now we are going to start TTC in January!
Sassy
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Thanks Ladies, that's what our aim is, to enjoy our first year of wedded bliss w/o the pressures of TTC. It's just everytime I see a baby, I get all ga-ga. I can't wait to have my own. I think Len's afraid after I have a baby, he won't get any attention. Tracy, has it been like that for you at all?
Stef, I will follow your lead and get healthy and prepared for when the time comes. Thanks for responding, I wish you the best and baby dust to you *********
Sassy
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That's right lisa, what made him change his mind?
LnP2003
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heee heee heeeee.... lisa was sneaky.... i put him around more babies & talked to him about when we would have kids of our own, and while i was away from him, i would catch him watching me with this wierd, and i do mean wierd - strange even, look on his face!
IrishTracy
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John isn't worried at all. Especially since he is a GREAT Dad. Patrick just adores him. They have their guy time. It's so cute!!
Stef28
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lizlen -- THANKS and best of luck to you in your wedding planning and then baby planning :-)
Laura
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The wait is def hard-- we had always said 3-5 yers because I want to be a SAHM and i wasnt ready to give up my career-- then we shortened it and decided a baby in 2004 would be perfect-- so right after our 2 year anniversary(1 month to go) we are going to start trying--with that being said we made this agreement back in Oct and I thought may would never come and now I cant believe that we start TTC in 2 months--so the time does fly-- We helped it fly by by taking our nieces for tons of weekends(just had the twins again this weekend)-- after having the kids it makes us think we need a few more months--except of course this time!!! now that it is getting close we are really getting ready!!!! hey I even dragged him to the childrens expo on Fri nite so something must be working!!! Enjoy that first year, travel, sleep late, enjoy each other and be spontaneus--- and then get down to making the babies!!!! Laura
shamma
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Liz, at least you and Len know you are ready, I don't know if the ready feeling will come my way anytime soon. I am so happy for you and Len.
