how far in advance should I

-order wedding bands

-select the wedding cake

-get the BM dresses ordered

i got my wedding bands in November..sooo that was 6 months ahead of time

BM dresses were ordered in November...6 months ahead

have not selected my wedding cake as of yet!!

you have time!!

bands... i guess whenever you want... if you see something you like get it whenever...

cake... are you using an outside baker... if so, i would start looking around now to see which bakerys you are interested in...

bm dresses... probably depends where youre getting them from DB is quick... RK Bridal is quick... other places seem to take a few months at least...

you can do stuff like that as soon as possible if you want...
good luck!