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How formal does an engagement party have to be?

flibbertigibbet Thread views: 3,492

How formal does an engagement party have to be?

How long after you get engaged can you have an engagement party?

I seem to be reading all these plans for engagement parties at restaurants or halls with huge guest lists and favors for everyone which I feel inevitably will end up costing thousands of dollars...

I'd totally be cool with and would really just prefer having like a BBQ or something .-- just an excuse to get people together, have some cake and drinks, etc.

I'm not a native Long Islander and I know things are a little different here on the expectation level compared to in the midwest but am I totally way off base?

Will people find just a low-key bbq or get together as being cheap/lame?

bluj786 Thread views: 3,492

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we did ours 7months after we got engaged.... and we actually did a big backyard party... FIL have a tiki bar in the back yard and its the party house... FH and I just wanted to hangout and have a good time with friends and family. nothing crazy

es2189 Thread views: 3,492

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We did ours five months after we got engaged, eight months before the wedding. We had thirty people and did it at my parents' house. It was catered, though.

Mommy2BeBride Thread views: 3,492

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We got engaged in September and our engagement party is in January.

We decided to go to a restaurant by our house that actually fits the amount of people we invited [125] but the restaurant gave us a great deal.. full 4 course meal with vienese hr and open bar for $38pp.

FH's parents & My parents are throwing it for us, so we are greatful for that.
FH & I are just paying for the DJ [which is a family friend & it's costing $300] and we are paying for the favors, centerpieces & any other decorations that I mainly bought at the dollar store & have so far only spent $150 for 12 centerpieces & decorations!

It's going to be a winter wonderland theme too!

But I think the engagement party is really your choice, I would of been fine with a backyard BBQ but we have too many people to fit in my backyard lol

Lsorrent Thread views: 3,492

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We did ours 2 months after we got engaged, and 16 months before the wedding.

We had a brunch buffet, about 50 people, at my dad's country club. I would've loved to have done a bbq in my backyard, but it was February, so that was out of the question, and I practically grew up at the country club. Actually, my dad wanted me to get married there, so this was my compromise We still kept it pretty casual thought and everyone LOVED the brunch idea.

For favors, I just did chocolate truffles from Morgan's Bay Confections. They were a huge hit.

ETA: I did not have a dj, I just made a few mixed cd's and had them playing over the standard house system. And we didn't do CP's either. The club has candles on their tables to begin with, so I just went with those.

polkadots Thread views: 3,492

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FH and I got engaged in November of last year, but because of financial issues, we're not hvaing our engagement party until this summer. I don't think there is a specific amount of time to have an engagement party? hah, i don't know, but we have a very casual family. They don't mind!

dee1984 Thread views: 3,492

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My parents through a surprise engagement party for us at their house about 5 months after our engagement. Just family and close family friends. It was catered, but nothing to fancy! Honestly, if you want a more low key thing, go for it! It's your wedding, and you can make those calls!

Soon2BMrs.C 81500 Thread views: 3,492

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My FH & I got engaged in sept of this year & were having our engagement party in June !!! I really don't think it really matters how soon or later, if u have 1 or not its up to the couple and or family !!!!!

dianeb888 Thread views: 3,492

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we are not having one, but I have been to one that was just friends and family at a city bar hanging out having a good time (very relaxed) to one that was at a hall and felt just like a wedding. What ever you want to do is up to you

beana Thread views: 3,492

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An engagement party is anything you want it to be. We got engaged in July and are having our party @ a restaurant on 11/22 with 65 people. I prefered a backyard tent party, but we were limited to a time frame and November is to cold for an outdoor party. Whatever you do it will be great because it is about you and your FH

ttdiff11 Thread views: 3,492

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i had mine 4.5 mths after we got engaged at a hall with a dj, favors, etc. but u can do watever u want!! it will be great no matter what.

chelley720 Thread views: 3,492

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I want a simple one too. I decided were going to so ours in june or late may. I want to have an outside party were just going to rent tents table and chairs. Im going to cook the food myself and hire 2 caterers to make sure everything goes smoothly. im also just using an ipod as the music and prob a keg to make it easy and cheap.

RachelandJimmy Thread views: 3,492

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We had a barbeque about 9 months after our engagement. We wanted to wait for the summer and it worked well for our families. (There are a lot of teachers who couldn't do it during the school year)

SpicyMeataball Thread views: 3,492

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We got engaged in April and had our party in August. My bride to be wanted to do it before she had to re start school and we were filled with vacations and other parties in the months prior. We did ours at a local catering hall and had it catered from Gino's In Islip and Smokin Al's in Bay Shore. While the food was great from Smokin Al's I wouldn't and havent gone back because of the rude service I got there. I ruined a my pants and shirt after I asked the guy there if I can have a box to carry the trays of food out to my car (because they told me they were too busy to deliver it) and he told the waitress to go into the dumpster out back and get one. Then he piled the heavier trays on top and when I questioned him he told me it was ok...needless to say the pulled pork leaked all over my pants and shirt. I wrote them a letter and havent heard anything from them.

But that was kinda off topic. The engagement party should just be about you and your fiance and your close family and friends. It doesnt have to be crazy expensive or extravagant.

tmcnair414 Thread views: 3,492

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I had my engagement party a year after we got engaged, I def don't think a BBQ is cheap; its a great idea!

Bobbys_Bride Thread views: 3,492

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We got engaged in August 2008 and had our party in February 2009. We had an amazing and affordable DJ there.

Call Variety Music 1-631-424-0440. They did an amazing job at our Engagement party and at all the other parties we have booked with them since!

chrisandjeanne Thread views: 3,492

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FH and I are planning our engagement party for this August...Which will be 8 months after the engagement. We are having it a yacht club where i grew up. 100-125 people and it's probably going to be more on the casual end.

adelya21 Thread views: 3,492

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Everyone has different types of parties. We are having a small private dinner for 20 people.

allornil Thread views: 3,492

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I'm not sure if we're having one but if we do its going to be really small (hopefully) and simple. I;d love a BBQ but a small casual dunner at a restaurant would be fine too.

Don't be pressured to do what other people do. Do whatever you want.