How in the WORLD do you?????

ahall04 Posted: Apr 09, 2006 09:10 AM

How in the WORLD do you?????

Dis-invite someone to be in your wedding party. My FH found out some information about one of his GM. Because of this information, FH doesn't want his friend to stand up for him at the wedding. How in the world do you go about telling someone who already accepted being in the wedding party, that you don't want them in it anymore?????? Ugh

sarahradio5 Posted: Apr 09, 2006 09:12 AM

Re: How in the WORLD do you?????

Just be honest... your FH shouldn't feel bad for dis-inviting him... the friend should feel bad for doing something SO bad to someone who thought enough of him to PUT him in the bridal party. Just be blunt with him and say that now knowing some information that really was a big disappointment to me, I really don't feel comfortable it you were in the bridal party (or even CAME to the wedding... why would you even want him there to begin with if he did something that sounds pretty bad?)

CLMon7906 Posted: Apr 09, 2006 10:19 AM

Re: How in the WORLD do you?????

i 'fired' 2 BMs....it's a harder decision than action. just be blunt, honest and be done with it is my advice. i have since lost all contact with those 2, but my life is just fine without them!

roxyspark Posted: Apr 09, 2006 12:25 PM

Re: How in the WORLD do you?????

Posted by sarahradio5

Just be honest... your FH shouldn't feel bad for dis-inviting him... the friend should feel bad for doing something SO bad to someone who thought enough of him to PUT him in the bridal party. Just be blunt with him and say that now knowing some information that really was a big disappointment to me, I really don't feel comfortable it you were in the bridal party (or even CAME to the wedding... why would you even want him there to begin with if he did something that sounds pretty bad?)

I agree, your FH needs to be upfront and just do it. It won't be easy. Good luck.

Mrs. Powell Posted: Apr 09, 2006 12:26 PM

Re: How in the WORLD do you?????

Posted by sarahradio5

Just be honest... your FH shouldn't feel bad for dis-inviting him... the friend should feel bad for doing something SO bad to someone who thought enough of him to PUT him in the bridal party. Just be blunt with him and say that now knowing some information that really was a big disappointment to me, I really don't feel comfortable it you were in the bridal party (or even CAME to the wedding... why would you even want him there to begin with if he did something that sounds pretty bad?)

I agree.