How involved is your FH's best man in regards to all the wedding planning/day of?

Original post by SIBride06

Jul 31, 2006 03:03 PM

My FH's has 2 best men.. One is his brother who is 19 (and still very immature) and his other is his best friend who he grew up with & now lives in Vegas.
They both do NOTHING in terms of all the wedding planning. What exactly does the best men supposed to do? ? My MOH threw me a shower & has been with me every step of the way during this whole wedding planning process. His best men are no where to be found. His brother cant be bothered (afterall.. he has a life and the other one lives 4000 miles away)

Is this normal?

My question is... What did your FH/DH best men do for your weddings? How much were they involved?

sami Posted: Jul 31, 2006 11:22 PM

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he really has not been involved... But i know the wedding day he will be in charge of a few differant things.. Im sure if we asked him to do more he def. would but not sure what yet!

Boston&NY2006 Posted: Aug 01, 2006 08:08 AM

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My DH's best man organized the bachelor party, but that's it...What else are they expected to do?

Oh, he also handed out checks and tips the day of the wedding so we wouldn't have to do it. I guess that counts, right?

ali120206 Posted: Aug 01, 2006 08:27 AM

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The main thing he's done is plan the bachelor party. He's been very helpful answering some questions we've had since he got married at the end of last year.

ellebelle1 Posted: Aug 01, 2006 11:20 AM

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Nothing.

smara Posted: Aug 01, 2006 11:25 AM

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Posted by SIBride06

His best men aren't even doing that.. The rest of the bridal party is doing that.

FH BM and GM didnt organize the BP, I did.. They are losers. They are only going to show up.

CKJ906 Posted: Aug 01, 2006 11:31 AM

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My FI's best man hasn't done anything either. Is showing no interest towards the wedding, and it's his brother

bluegreen08 Posted: Oct 31, 2007 01:12 PM

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Posted by CKJ906

My FI's best man hasn't done anything either. Is showing no interest towards the wedding, and it's his brother

Yeah, same here (FH's 2 BMs are his brothers)....

I'll be happy if they plan FH a fun bachelor party and come to the wedding in tuxes.

Bonus if they give us wedding gifts!

ChrisnAmy Posted: Nov 01, 2007 09:13 AM

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My Dh had two best men also.
They arranged the Bachelor party.

I don't think they need to be more involved than that!

oOElisaOo Posted: Nov 01, 2007 10:31 AM

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BM is in Colorado and is coming down for the wedding a week before. This means the bachelor party has to be a week before the wedding which I am not exactly thrilled about - I think I'll need more time to recover from whatever strip club stories I end up hearing about. I'm sure BM will have plenty of suggestions for the bachelor party but that will probably be the extent of his help, besides coming up with an embarrassing speech for FH at the reception.