How many relationships before you and vice versa?

loveisinbloom Posted: Aug 08, 2006 12:43 AM

How many relationships before you and vice versa?

Just curious since I know this board represents a wide range of people ... how many prior relationships did your FH have before you and how many did you have before him? how many were serious or just flings ? My FH had 2 before me and I am his 3rd which I think makes a pretty good number he has some relationship practice under his belt :) but not so much to make me think he is an expert LOL... 1 was nothing serious and me and the other one was ... as for myself I have a bit more :) mostly flings just short lived relationships not serious . I have had 3 serious relationships including my Fh ... just wondering since I think it is important for both people to go through these things before getting married ... too many people seem to get married and later on feel like they missed out on something.. with that being said I do also believe that 2 people who had no other relationships can get married and have a wonderful marriage without feeling that way ... it goes both ways since we are all different.. I am just glad to be going into this feeling I did all that now ready for the next chapter

betani Posted: Aug 08, 2006 12:58 AM

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him - really only 1 other serious on (about 2yrs). he dated someone after her but it didn't really mean anything and went on a few dates with people before her, but nothing really there again.

me - 3 other relationships all under a few months and not serious at all.

drpepper318 Posted: Aug 08, 2006 01:43 AM

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No other serious relationships for either of us, but also we met when we were teenagers so we didn't have a lot of time for that before

alioop4282 Posted: Aug 08, 2006 06:55 AM

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He only had one seriosu one before me and that was his exwife.
I had three serious relationships before him.

rojerono Posted: Aug 08, 2006 06:57 AM

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Welllll....
You have to remember that I didn't start hanging out with my FH until we were 32 and 29...

He had 1 very serious girlfriend for about 3 years before me and he had a lot of not so serious girlfriends and flings. At one point he told me a very reasonable number of 5 - but as time goes on it became evident that there were some folks unaccounted for. 'You mean you want me to count EVERY person I have ever slept with?' Like his sister's former sister in law... ('I didn't tell you about her?'), the girl who did my nails ('it was a one night thing... I don't even know her name'). His HISTORY is what may have taken me so long to get to the altar.

As to my own experience *ahem*...

Again - I was older when we hooked up! I had 2 SERIOUS boyfriends before him. I had about 7 guys that I had dated casually or dated seriously but never actually fooled around with.

BUT all that is over now! We have been exclusive to one another for more than 6 years and we are about to promise fidelity for about 100 more years!

klingklang77 Posted: Aug 08, 2006 07:11 AM

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i had two serious relationships before DH. I had a few non serious relationships and flings before him.

He had a non-serious relationship before me. He will refer to her somtimes as an ex, but they only dated for a month. Go figure.

From what I have been told Australians do not really date like we do here. I found this to be the case when I lived in Germany, as well. I learned there that if you kiss someone that means you are in a serious relationship. If that is the case, then i have been in quite a bit of serious relationships. I think the situation is like that in Australia, but a little more laxed.

cherryj24 Posted: Aug 08, 2006 08:22 AM

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FH- He had 2 GFs who lived with him and one other one through high school. So 3 before me all pretty serious but he said he NEVER wanted to get married esp not to any of them

Me- I dated um hmmmm, lemme see, maybe 6 or 7 guys. 3 of which were about 2 years or more and 1 other one that I lived with. So I guess we both pretty much knew what we did and didn't want.

rachel212 Posted: Aug 08, 2006 08:25 AM

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2 serious for me and 2 for FH as well.

CaseyVM214 Posted: Aug 08, 2006 09:00 AM

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we each had 1 serious...his: he was married to ...mine: I was just dating seriously (sort of...we were in HS and 1st year of college)

angnick Posted: Aug 08, 2006 09:04 AM

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i had quite a few relationships- about 2 or 3 serious ones. But i dated MANY people

DH dated one girl. and hooked up with a few others.

Mandyin2007 Posted: Aug 08, 2006 09:04 AM

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he had two girlfriends before me. One he dated for two years (in high school) and the other for 6 months when he was 21. I've had two relationships (I casually dated around abit otherwise, but nothing serious.) I dated one guy for a year and th other for two years (both were in high school).

stephanief Posted: Aug 08, 2006 09:11 AM

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I had a serious boyfriend for 2 years and then dated a LOSER (you know who you are) for 4 1/2 years before I met Kevin......

DandS Posted: Aug 08, 2006 09:11 AM

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FH had 3 gf's before me (1 more serious than the other 2, but nothing too serious) and a few flings.

I had 3 bf's before him (only 1 of them being more serious than the other 2 as well but also nothing too serious) and a few flings as well.

We both never moved in with our bf or gf, just dated for about 1-2 years (the more serious one's).

nov06 Posted: Aug 08, 2006 09:18 AM

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I had one serious BF for 10 years and then a not so serious one for about a year but I always knew I'd never marry him (he was a rebound)

FH had 1 serious GF for about 4 years and a couple 'maybe' relationships that didn't work out in the end.

Shiv Posted: Aug 08, 2006 09:20 AM

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no serious bf's before him- but i dated ALOT and had a ton of fun being single for as long as i was.

he had 2 serious gf's before me but they were both from HS

ewickens Posted: Aug 08, 2006 09:27 AM

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Him - one other very serious relationship that ended harshly.

Me - one serious relationship that ended with him cheating on me, then a few casual relationships before and after the serious one.

His brother and my friend introduced us and after the first look, we both knew we'd end up together, it was just a matter of when!

nala3378 Posted: Aug 08, 2006 12:31 PM

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Posted by betani

him - really only 1 other serious on (about 2yrs). he dated someone after her but it didn't really mean anything and went on a few dates with people before her, but nothing really there again.

me - 3 other relationships all under a few months and not serious at all.

him - 2 seriuos and some flings.

me I had 3 seriuos ( 4yr) and some flings.

Hey him and I were suppossed to be just a fling.

You never know

ant n tilde Posted: Aug 08, 2006 12:37 PM

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FH and i were each other's first serious relationship we met right after we turned 15

my other relationships were silly little things - that lasted less than a month - you know high school relationships 'tell your friend to tell him that i like him' etc lol

i am very happy with the way things worked out!

cindyandkevin Posted: Aug 08, 2006 12:47 PM

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Me: I've had 2 previous relationships. One guy I dated for 3.5 years and the other for 1 year. Then I met DH and we got engaged after only 4 months!!!

Him: He met his ex-wife when he was 16 and they grew up together. After his divorce he had a live-in girlfriend for 4 years, she was horrible to him. When he met me he started to believe in love again and decided that he deserves to be happy afterall!!