Hi all: I just figured out how to sign up to his board so I'm very exicted. My sister (MOH) asked me if my other 7 Bms know they have to chip in for the wedding and if so, what is the average price Bms chip in for a catered shower??? Any thoughts? Thanks!
Donna
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I guess it really depends. I've been lucky that every time I was a bm, the bride's mom paid for the shower. And for my shower I know my mom paid so the only cost for my bms was their gifts
sandj100304
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I think it is fair to ask them to chip in. I was the MOH for my sister and she had 6 BM's. My mom and I paid a little more than half of the shower and I had the other girls split the rest. Plus we split the cost of the video camera we bought her 7 ways.
jar823
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I heard through the grapevine!...... That my Bridesmaids were asked to chip in about $180 for the shower and the gift. (If you ask me I think its crazy!) I would have been happy having my shower in my mom's house, so it would be cheaper for everyone. I don't know why they are going so big for the shower. ????????????
But SHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH! I know nothing! H w
FLaCaTaCa
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I was asked to chip in 200.00 bucks!!! I didn't think much of it though. Some people will write a check right away and some will &^%$# and moan. Take it all with a grain of salt.
DrmnBlnd
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It really does depend on where the BM's decide to have the shower, and how much the decorations and everything else come to. I know my mom helped with the shower, so it brought the cost down for my BM's.
lianemarie
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I have always chipped in. I thought it was part of being a bridesmaid.
spazybride04
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wow.. this couldn't have come at a better time for me... we are going through this as we speak. My BM's told my MOH that they 'NEVER' heard of such a thing that the BM's help with the shower... My best friend of 10 years of all people tells her this.
but yes, i think that they should chip in as much as they can.. any amount would help!
Hope this helps... and good luck!
sophie78
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I personally would never expect BMs to pay for a shower. They should just get a nice gift. Also, if they do pay for the shower, that should be the gift. Why give both the shower and the gift?
suven
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they are supposed to share the cost of the shower. But, these days, I think most of our moms are taking care of the shower...
jill13bean
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I would never ask for a penny!! I don't think it is right to ask people to pay... The Bridal Party helps plan the Shower not pay for it on here was the first time i heard of that it is not the Bridal Party's responsibility to pay.. it is our wedding-JMO
Besides I don't think my mom would accept my friend's $$$
bobbsbride
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My Mom is throwing the whole shower. My Fiance's sisters (2 BM's) would never spend an ounce of time on my wedding. My MOH (not related to fiance) is giving her a han, but not paying. My mother gave her the job of planning the bachelorette party. I am not expecting anyone to pay for it, but it would be nice for them to help my mom!
May152005
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Every shower that I have been to was paid for in full by members of the family, whether it be the brides Mother, Sister, MIL, SIL, a close Cousin or Aunt. I think it's ridiculous to expect the BM or even the MOH to pay for the shower. They already have the expense of buying the dress of the brides choice to wear on her special day, so why burden them with yet another expense?
eogara
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I'm actually doing this right now for a friend of mine. I'm a BM, not the MOH, but it wouldn't enter my mind that the shower would not be split between all the BM's and the MOH. Obviously the more extravagant the place, the more expensive it is, but I think it's ridiculous to expect the MOH to foot the bill.
daisybride
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I am in a wedding where we had to contribute 500 to the shower. I think this is a lot but there were not that many people in the party. My girls were asked to contribute 225 and my mom and sister are picking up the rest. Both of these prices include $$ for the gift as well.
holly231
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I ahve no idea about my shower, and id o not want to know..I want a surprise.....never had a surprise anything....
I have heard before that my BP was having a lot of disagreements..but i do not want to know about it and will not choose sides with anyone....I just want them to be there for ME...if they get along with each other or not, thats their problems...I love the people I chose, and not everyone is going to get along...
JuneBride2005
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I have heard of bm's chipping in for the shower...I was only a bm in my cousin's wedding a few years back and my aunt covered all the costs for the shower. I am pretty sure that my moh (my sister) and my mom will be paying for most, if not all, of my shower
MegLehner
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According to tradition BM & MOH (who are not sisters) are supposed to pay for the shower entirely on their own, with no help from mom/FMIL/sister/etc.
'Traditionally a friend or friends of the bride give the shower. Since a shower is a fundraiser of sorts, a member of the bride's family should never give one.'
butterfly20
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depends person by person...
my bm's will not be asked for anything, but alot of people seem to have them chip in
