One of my friends from college who I wasn't planning on inviting to my wedding invited me and FH to hers. It happens we have a prior engagement the day of the wedding so we're not going. I also RSVPed 'no' to the shower b/c I have something to do that day and it is OOT.
My question is, we're not going to the wedding, how much should I send? I don't want to send nothing because she is still a friend, but she wasn't on my 'A' list of guests since we have huge families.
Thoughts?
I was thinking of just sending a nice card with $50 in it. I still don't know if she'll be invited to my wedding - we'll probably play it by ear depending on how many 'no's' we get back for our wedding.
Diana508
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Even before I read the last paragraph of your post, I thought 50 as well.
Ang9483
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I think $50 is reasonable. You aren't going to the wedding and some people don't give anything.
FutureJOC
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If you want to send cash, I would say no more than $100, but you could also maybe wait until after her shower is over and buy her a wedding present from what she has left.
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Posted by FutureJOC
If you want to send cash, I would say no more than $100, but you could also maybe wait until after her shower is over and buy her a wedding present from what she has left.
I like this idea. I'd be more inclined to send a gift than cash if I was invited but am not going to the wedding.
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Posted by FutureJOC
If you want to send cash, I would say no more than $100, but you could also maybe wait until after her shower is over and buy her a wedding present from what she has left.
I like this idea. I'd be more inclined to send a gift than cash if I was invited but am not going to the wedding.
i agree
April_Luv
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$50.00 is good!
springsandra
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I'd send a gift or a gift card to where she's registered in that amount, rather than a check for it. That's what most of my OOT friends who couldn't come did for us. It was really nice of them and totally unexpected!
elisa112101
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$50.00 is good!
ITA
FallBride2010
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$100
evita2781
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If you want to send cash, I would say no more than $100, but you could also maybe wait until after her shower is over and buy her a wedding present from what she has left.
ITA - i know that's what a lot of people do
leesah85
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Thanks ladies! very helpful (as usual)!
MrsVtoBe
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Posted by FutureJOC
If you want to send cash, I would say no more than $100, but you could also maybe wait until after her shower is over and buy her a wedding present from what she has left.
I like this idea. I'd be more inclined to send a gift than cash if I was invited but am not going to the wedding.
ITA
Moonmist09
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i would say no more than $50, especially if your not going to their wedding.
and if you don't go to her shower, you don't have to send a gift, its up to you if you want to or not,.
FutureMrsDe
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if you are inviting them then you need to give what you want to get back, if you arnt you can send $50
