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how soon is too soon?

jesca Posted:

how soon is too soon?

one of the girls i want to have in my BP, but have not asked yet, is getting married next november. i'm getting married the following may (2010), is that too soon after her own wedding to ask her to be in mine?

cammolax23 Posted:

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now way! its like 6 months deifference.. and especially if you give her this much times notice you should be fine.. and if SHE thinks its too close then at least you know now as opposed to closer to the date

mjay Posted:

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wow,,ppl sure plan their weddings ahead of time,,just ask her,, no biggie

jesca Posted:

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Posted by mjay

wow,,ppl sure plan their weddings ahead of time,,just ask her,, no biggie



theres nothing wrong with planning early.
MayWeddingGrl Posted:

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its never too soon... though your friend might be busy with her plans, at least she'd know that you have your wedding plans as well... I'm sure she would know not to take on too much responsibility if she couldn't handle being in your BP

PegaLega Posted:

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I dont think that is too soon, she may even enjoy being a part of your day after her day is over. I would as her now and tell her she has time to think about it

drpepper318 Posted:

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Definitely not too soon! Six months is actually a really long time in between, I don't get why it would be a problem. My friend was in my wedding (and I was in hers) only two weeks apart & it was totally great! You should definitely ask & don't feel like the weddings are too close.

BoxOfRocks Posted:

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No, six months is enough time between the two events. She will be pretty busy in the months before her own wedding, but there's a lot of time between hers and yours.

MsPotterhead Posted:

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Did she already ask you to be in hers? If she didn't, I would wait. FH is in a very awkward situation now because a friend that he wasn't planning on asking to be a GM and who is getting married a month after us, just asked him. Now he doesn't know what to do!
If she already asked you, then I would def. ask her.
thelastresort Posted:

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I got married in November and had absolutely no problem with being one of my friend's BMs in her wedding this April. In fact, I'm really looking forward to it.

mjay Posted:

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Posted by jesca


Posted by mjay

wow,,ppl sure plan their weddings ahead of time,,just ask her,, no biggie



theres nothing wrong with planning early.



NEVER DID I SAY THERE WAS ANYTHING WRONG,,
GraceAndAdam Posted:

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Posted by drpepper318

Definitely not too soon! Six months is actually a really long time in between, I don't get why it would be a problem. My friend was in my wedding (and I was in hers) only two weeks apart & it was totally great! You should definitely ask & don't feel like the weddings are too close.



I agree with my BM!!! We didn't have any problems being in each other's weddings 2 weeks apart! It was actually really fun to have a close friend to go through all the planning with at the same time! And I was also the MOH in another wedding 2 months after mine, and no probs there either! I felt honored and very happy to take part in both of those weddings, and I'm sure your friend would feel the same way about taking part in yours!
JackieV Posted:

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i would ask her. FH and I are getting married in april 09 and his brother is getting married in september 09. I wouldnt worry.

alissa5517 Posted:

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Definately not. I'm sure she will be happy to be asked.

lizzynyu Posted:

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My best friend and I were 3 weeks apart and we were in each others wedding party. It was a little stressful towards the end because I had to concentrate on getting my stuff done at the same time that she was about to get married but it was awesome to plan together and bounce ideas off of each other. And 6 months is a long time apart so I think you would be fine. She'll probably love it since she'll get to do some more wedding planning stuff now that her wedding is over. I'm in a wedding party now for my soon to be sister in law and brother in law and I love helping her with all the planning and stuff since mine is over now. I would just ask her and see what she says.

freda83 Posted:

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I am getting married in sept and my friend is getting married in july. And we are in each others weddings. It has been great because alot of stuff we are able to do together. and we can share alot of ideas and we both understand what the other is going through

jesca Posted:

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Posted by mjay


Posted by jesca


Posted by mjay

wow,,ppl sure plan their weddings ahead of time,,just ask her,, no biggie



theres nothing wrong with planning early.



NEVER DID I SAY THERE WAS ANYTHING WRONG,,



really, caps?

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