how to address wedding invite to a gay couple who is married

ThongLori Posted: Apr 15, 2004 11:52 PM

how to address wedding invite to a gay couple who is married

Would it be:

Mr. Eric XXXXXX
and
Mr. Michael XXXXXX

????? help? thanks!

peabody Posted: Apr 15, 2004 11:53 PM

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Good question. I'd like to know that too.

JZNCK Posted: Apr 15, 2004 11:53 PM

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yeah I think so..

marymoon Posted: Apr 16, 2004 01:00 AM

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That's how I would do it!

butterfly20 Posted: Apr 16, 2004 01:19 AM

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i think that sounds good!

MrsBrad Posted: Apr 16, 2004 01:40 AM

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Yea, I think that is right -

Mr. John Smith and Mr. John Doe

Never thought of that one!

gertyrae Posted: Apr 16, 2004 02:16 AM

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That is how I did mine.

LImom Posted: Apr 16, 2004 04:42 AM

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What other way could it possibly be?

babybride Posted: Apr 16, 2004 07:48 AM

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That's what I did for one of mine.

bobbsbride Posted: Apr 16, 2004 08:55 AM

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Thats how I did it for my cousin who is married to another woman!

skew Posted: Apr 16, 2004 08:58 AM

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Good question. It is not an issue w/ us, but would be interesting to know.

usuk2004 Posted: Apr 16, 2004 08:59 AM

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That's how I did mine, just like any other couple who is not married.

ETS: oops misread the post, I thought they weren't married. Do you know if one has taken the other's last name or if they've created a new last name?

Mr and Mr Jim and Bob Smith?

or Mr Jim Smith and Mr Bob Jones

takeoutcook Posted: Apr 16, 2004 09:02 AM

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that's what I would do. If they have the same last name, then I would write Mr. and Mr. Bob and Steve Smith (names are made up).

If no one has changed or hyphenated last names, then I would just write:

Mr. and Mr. Bob Jones and Steve Smith

OR

Mr. Bob Jones and Mr. Steve Smith

Maribelle7777 Posted: Apr 16, 2004 09:13 AM

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Lori

Yes
Mr. Joe Smith
and
Mr. Brian Jones

dita531 Posted: Apr 16, 2004 09:24 AM

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IF they have two different last names and not a combination of the two,as some gay couples do, then I would do it the way you said.

MRSJLK Posted: Apr 16, 2004 09:26 AM

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If you feel comfortable enough maybe your best bet is to ask them - this way you don't take any risk of offending anyone.

AliKing Posted: Apr 16, 2004 09:28 AM

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Posted by ThongLori

Would it be:

Mr. Eric XXXXXX
and
Mr. Michael XXXXXX

????? help? thanks!

That is the format I used.

Lorena Posted: Apr 16, 2004 09:39 AM

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From the.knot.com :

Invitations: Addressing One to a Gay Couple?

Q. How do you address an invitation (or place card) to a gay couple?

A. The same way you would address it to any other unmarried couple or married couple with different last names. On the outer envelope of the invitation, the two names should be alphabetically listed on separate lines:
Mr. George Bellafante Mr. Thomas Jones

On the inside envelope, use titles and last names: Mr. Bellafante and Mr. Jones. Same with the place card.

tourist Posted: Apr 16, 2004 09:47 AM

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As I was reading this, I was wondering how coem there isn't soem 'offical' rule on this. Glad to see the know is keeping with the times.

With hetero couples the woman comes first if they have diffent names, so with a gay couple do you just go alpabeticl o the oens youknw better?

I have the added dilemma of a gay couel livign together, but not out to msot of our friedns whom they willprobabaly be sitting with.

I'm going to wait as long as I can to see if they tell anymore people & then I will ask the one I know better. I'll probabaly jsut invit ehim with a guest & he can take it from there, but normally I wouldn't do that b/c they are living togehter , I would include both on the invite.