So does any one feel guilty talking to college friends who you are relatively close with but just dont plan on inviting to your wedding?
I do, I feel weird discussing my plans with them and then thinking that I dont want to invite them. The reason I dont want to invite some of these people is that I do not want people talking about college parties and stuff like that at my wedding. I dont want the remember when you did that keg stand type stuff...
Am I alone with these types of feelings?
LorinElizabeth
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I sort of agree. I'm only inviting my close friends from college. Anyone else that I talk to that I know we're not inviting I just keep as much of the details out. Unfortunately I think people always seem hurt when they don't get invited to the wedding, but at the same time, you shouldn't lead them on that they're invited either. I mean one girl I went to college with was asking me all sorts of advise, invited me and my FI to the engagement party (we got them a present) and we didn't get invited to the wedding!! That's just RUDE! I wasn't invited to the bridal shower or the wedding because I think they just decided to invite everyone they've ever met and realized there would be just too many people! So as long as you don't invite anyone to events before your wedding then I don't think that they'll expect to get invited to the actual wedding. That's what I'm doing.
NinaChris07
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My advice would be to explain to them how expensive it is and how you guys are upset you won't be able to invite everyone you can... kind of nonchalantly while talking to them and then I guess don't make a big deal about the wedding to them...
I know what you mean though, because I feel bad that I can't invite everone that I am friendly with but maybe that helps?
espresso
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ya i know what you mean. try to avoid discussing the wedding with them tho because then they will presume they are invited. just switch the topic when it comes up!
snowcat
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That is a tough situation! I agree, you should try to avoid talking about it with them as much as possible...explaining to them that you are trying to keep it small works well also.
