how to you stop an expanding guest list?

How do you deal with a guest list that won't stop growing?

Our minimum is 175.

Around the hall selection time, we tweaked our list to hit 185 probable yesses by planning to invite somewhere around 212.

We're working on invitations and we're now at 240 and FMIL just now added six more people.

It's making me wish we booked a room that could only fit 180.

We did really good until the end of keeping the list 'reasonable', then we added about 25-30 more people to the list right before we had our envelopes done.
In the end though, we did the math and it was worth it to have ALL the people we wanted with us on our wedding day. I'm glad we added them.

Our original list was about 100 people - in month it has grown to over 150!!! My FMIL keeps adding people to the list, but FH and I will go thru and he has many people that he either ddoesn't know or doesn't want at our wedding

I know I have the same probelm I really have to sit down and create a final head count list because this is just becoming out of control.

We asked our IL's for their guest list the second we got engaged and before we started looking at halls so we knew what number to work with. We told them this had to be it! No ad ons and we also told them our financial limit. They were very understandable, FH was married once before, they paid for 2 daughters to get married (granted over 10 years ago) and I'm paying for the wedding while FH is paying for major home inprovements. It might sound harsh but I can say no because I'm paying. We are lucky in that they have been very reasonable and relaistic in who they are inviting.

Good luck. If you are strapped for cash can you sit down with them and 'negotitate' the list. Maybe some people can get cut for others?

true ladies i dont know how except to stop looking at the guest list.

i went from 125-140 now my room will hold max 144 +bride and groom

nonetheless i am not going to send out save the dates maybe everyone from oot will not come. i dunno what else to do.
oh well maybe i will just stop talking to people in the next year and i wont have to invite them.

just kidding.

Either you or your fiancee (or both) need to be really strict when it comes to your guest lists. To a point where my FH calls me Ms. Anal in regards to this situation. I don't care cuz it could can be really out of control. If the future in law or even your parents gets out of control. Give them certain #of guests they want to invite and stick to that #s. If they want to invite more, they need to wait and find out if the so called people from your A lists couldn't make it.

Good LUck

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