how would you feel if....

Lisa218 Posted: Oct 09, 2008 07:02 PM

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egem523 Posted: Oct 09, 2008 07:03 PM

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Save the best for last!!!

Try not to let it get to you. The emotion of your day will be very different from your day.

Lisa218 Posted: Oct 09, 2008 07:08 PM

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Espo22 Posted: Oct 09, 2008 07:08 PM

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when is her wedding?

beram63 Posted: Oct 09, 2008 07:09 PM

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not gonna lie--i'd be pissed. i know there's a whole school of thought out there that's like the world doesn't revolve around your wedding, yadda yadda. i still say it's wrong to do that to a woman you love. period.

jennaandguy09 Posted: Oct 09, 2008 07:10 PM

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No two weddings are exactly alike, even if you are sisters, you're two different people, with two different styles and personalities, don't let this stress you out, worry about your day and getting your stuff done!!

Lisa218 Posted: Oct 09, 2008 07:15 PM

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oldfriendoflive Posted: Oct 09, 2008 07:21 PM

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I did that to my sister. I am getting married 4 and a half months before her. I did ask her permisson first and she said it was ok. My FH wanted May and will be engaged for a year and 7 months before we get married she is waiting 2 and a half years. I couldn't wait- I am getting out and want to pop out some babies.

Jennmolloy Posted: Oct 09, 2008 07:22 PM

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I honestly would be pissed!!!!!!!!

to play devil's advocate she probably has her reasons for needing to get married when she is.

crazeee18 Posted: Oct 09, 2008 07:23 PM

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i would be annoyed..

Espo22 Posted: Oct 09, 2008 07:28 PM

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Posted by Lisa218

Not sure... she is thinking june or July

i wouldnt mind at all if it was a friend, or other family member. I had a few friends who got engaged after me but married before us and i was 100% fine with that BUT if it was a sister then i'd feel differently. I think my main concern was being a burden on my parents. We paid for most of our wedding but they wanted to contribute somewhat and i think with 2 of us they would've been so stressed out. Plus my mom paid for my shower, so if she would've had to pay for back to back showers then i'd feel horrible for her, and especially if i went from only having mine to now being 2nd and feeling like its even more of a burden bc its like ok i just paid for a shower now have to do it again.

Cacarina Posted: Oct 09, 2008 07:36 PM

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i'd be pretty darn pissed. i wasnt even allowed to get engaged until after my brother's wedding, in fear of stealing his thunder!

NikkiR515 Posted: Oct 09, 2008 07:43 PM

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I would like to say it wouldn't bother me, but honestly I would be a little upset....
The again, it would also depends a lot on the circumstances and why she chose to get married before me. If my sister was significantly older than me, I would mind less than if she was younger than me. I don't know if that makes any sense but if she was older than I would be more understanding of her rush to get married sooner...

Summertimegal424 Posted: Oct 09, 2008 07:43 PM

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ouch! well look at it this way...you can make sure your's is 10x better

no but seriously that freaking stinks...maybe talk to her and tell her realllllly how you feel

gina409 Posted: Oct 09, 2008 08:00 PM

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i kinda went through something a bit similar with a friend and at first i was pissed and even though some people said not to be i was and sometimes i still am lol and i do think u have a right to be annoyed but bottom line i had to just say well i cant stop her she is gonna do it anyway and ill just do mine and she will do hers and try to be happy..but i felt just like u did if it was me getting engaged after i would have at least asked if she minded and she didnt she just made it 3 weeks after mine but what can u do?..hth

MrsList09 Posted: Oct 09, 2008 08:03 PM

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I would be SO PISSED! I always wanted a fall wedding but then my uncle got engaged before I did and planned an October wedding. I didn't want to have 2 family weddings within a few weeks of each other so I switched mine to April. I would never do that to someone.

TheLadyJ Posted: Oct 09, 2008 08:06 PM

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I would really be pissed. My little sis got engaged before me and is getting married this May. I was SOOOOO worried that my October wedding would be too close to hers that I called and asked her permission before setting my date. I really wanted a summer sunset wedding, but realized that 2 or 3 months would be too close to hers.

My aunt is now talking about having a wedding in Hungary this summer and wants the whole family to come. My mom is absolutely livid, and my aunt is insulted when we said our whole family will basically be unable to attend.

Fact is, it is rude to schedule a wedding so close to an immediate family member. Even friends should give eachother at least a month.

aimerlena01 Posted: Oct 09, 2008 08:07 PM

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I would be annoyed...I can't lie. However, I have said many times to my mom how I wish someone else in my family got married first so everyone knew wedding etiquette! Your wedding will be wonderful!!