How would you feel.....NWR

If you had an old college roommate who you had initially planned on making her a BM (but decided against it), who made the trip out here for your wedding, got married and pregnant and you found out via FACEBOOK???????

One of my old roommates (who I thought was a best friend) got engaged on Valentine's Day. She texted me that day and I was so excited for her. She came out for the wedding, had a great time. Her wedding was supposed to be in Boston next year.

Well I was just perusing FB and saw her default pic is a SONOGRAM! And then I saw all of these congrats messages and then pics of her in a wedding gown and a status change of XX is 'married.'!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I just feel slighted. Like I wish she would've at least texted me or something.......I thought we were closer than that. I commented on her page saying congrats, but it seems we have some catching up to do.

maybe it was a shotgun wedding?

I know I was upset when I found out ON HERE and FB that theresa was preggo.. she never told me... but I totally understand that there was other things on her mind.

but yea, you have every right to be upset.

you should text her


'omg, congratulations! how far along are you?? why didn't you tell me?? I'm so excited for you!'

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Posted by latinaj

maybe it was a shotgun wedding?

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That's the first thing that crossed my mind too.

Maybe she got married right after yours and she knew you would be on your HM? Or didn't want to 'steal your thunder' so kept it from you.

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Posted by latinaj

maybe it was a shotgun wedding?

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Yeah that's what I'm thinking, maybe something small and hurried since she prob didn't want to show in her wedding pics

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Posted by latinaj

maybe it was a shotgun wedding?

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yeah ita...it sounds like a lot happened all at once and maybe shes just caught up in it all

even if it was a shotgun wedding, i would still feel slighted if i were you. i think that was a great response.. i had a similar situation with an old college roommate too! we didnt talk that much and then i received and email invite to view her shutterfly album and there was a baby in the pics!! i finally figured out it was her baby. she texts me like nothing happend... i have kind of written her off but that's cuz she's been a flake in many other incidents as well.
if you consider her a close friend, you should give her a call (not text or FB) because maybe she has her mind on other things at the moment... i wouldnt take it personally- maybe she has a good explanation.

if you want an answer..say something like OMG!!!! congrats again! Why didn't you tell me? I'm so excited for you!!!

then ut turns it into a happy comment and not a omg biatch...you suck one.

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Posted by allornil

if you want an answer..say something like OMG!!!! congrats again! Why didn't you tell me? I'm so excited for you!!!

then ut turns it into a happy comment and not a omg biatch...you suck one.

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ITA!

im sure she didnt mean it.
im going to tell you first hand that if she became pregnant and had to plan the wedding quick things may have gotten forgotten-like to tell you that she was getting married.
was the wedding small?

i would be a little hurt.

when i got engaged i made sure to call everyone that i was close to before i posted anything on fb

time to play catch up

Ok so I just spoke with a mutual friend of ours (one of my BM's). She said that she knew already because she got a phone call. Apparently said friend was preggo at my wedding but didn't know. Then they got married on July 30 with just family - just a ceremony to make it official......definitely shotgon. And then that she was going to call me and she was telling people 'gradually.'

Ok, I get the shotgun wedding, I get the small ceremony......but (a) that was in JULY, it's now September.....and (b) she could've still called. And really, tell people gradually??? Then why did I find out by noticing her SONOGRAM AS HER FB PICTURE??????? That's not exactly gradual.

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Posted by allornil

if you want an answer..say something like OMG!!!! congrats again! Why didn't you tell me? I'm so excited for you!!!

then ut turns it into a happy comment and not a omg biatch...you suck one.

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my thoughts exactly!

Id be hurt too

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Posted by Lsorrent

Ok so I just spoke with a mutual friend of ours (one of my BM's). She said that she knew already because she got a phone call. Apparently said friend was preggo at my wedding but didn't know. Then they got married on July 30 with just family - just a ceremony to make it official......definitely shotgon. And then that she was going to call me and she was telling people 'gradually.'

Ok, I get the shotgun wedding, I get the small ceremony......but (a) that was in JULY, it's now September.....and (b) she could've still called. And really, tell people gradually??? Then why did I find out by noticing her SONOGRAM AS HER FB PICTURE??????? That's not exactly gradual.

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people are crazy...sometimes we find out the hard way what people's true colors are

fb is not gradual! lol

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Posted by Lsorrent

Ok so I just spoke with a mutual friend of ours (one of my BM's). She said that she knew already because she got a phone call. Apparently said friend was preggo at my wedding but didn't know. Then they got married on July 30 with just family - just a ceremony to make it official......definitely shotgon. And then that she was going to call me and she was telling people 'gradually.'

Ok, I get the shotgun wedding, I get the small ceremony......but (a) that was in JULY, it's now September.....and (b) she could've still called. And really, tell people gradually??? Then why did I find out by noticing her SONOGRAM AS HER FB PICTURE??????? That's not exactly gradual.

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Okay, then I'd be a little annoyed. But that's so strange!

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Posted by Lsorrent

Ok so I just spoke with a mutual friend of ours (one of my BM's). She said that she knew already because she got a phone call. Apparently said friend was preggo at my wedding but didn't know. Then they got married on July 30 with just family - just a ceremony to make it official......definitely shotgon. And then that she was going to call me and she was telling people 'gradually.'

Ok, I get the shotgun wedding, I get the small ceremony......but (a) that was in JULY, it's now September.....and (b) she could've still called. And really, tell people gradually??? Then why did I find out by noticing her SONOGRAM AS HER FB PICTURE??????? That's not exactly gradual.

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okay now you have to re-evaluate how close of a friend she is to you and how you are to her... she couldn't find a moment in the past 3 months to call or email you. I would be hurt, very hurt.

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Posted by Lsorrent

Ok so I just spoke with a mutual friend of ours (one of my BM's). She said that she knew already because she got a phone call. Apparently said friend was preggo at my wedding but didn't know. Then they got married on July 30 with just family - just a ceremony to make it official......definitely shotgon. And then that she was going to call me and she was telling people 'gradually.'

Ok, I get the shotgun wedding, I get the small ceremony......but (a) that was in JULY, it's now September.....and (b) she could've still called. And really, tell people gradually??? Then why did I find out by noticing her SONOGRAM AS HER FB PICTURE??????? That's not exactly gradual.

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hmm, i don't know. i don't know her personally, but i'm going to try and step in her shoes for a second. i'm not saying that having a baby isn't wonderful, i know i was VERY secretive about it from family and friends up until 14 weeks; i know now that everyone is thrilled but i just didn't really want to tell people right away for some reason. i think (even though it was planned for me) i was just reacting out of nerves. and--depending on her family--i could see her being even more secretive about it if they were putting any guilt on her. i would just congratulate her and jokingly asked why she didn't tell me for so long--see what comes out of that!