How would you handle this

Happybride2005 Posted: Aug 24, 2005 08:38 PM

How would you handle this

I invited a co-worker in my department and my boss. THe co-worker was fired/laid off last week. My boss asked me today when I have to give the final co9unt to the hall. She said that it might be an awkward situation with my former co-worker being there. I told her I could sit them at different tables. My boss said she really wants to come to the wedding but she doesn't want it to be awkward.

How would you handle this? I would really like the both of them there. I hope for one day they could put there differences aside. DOes that sound selfish

JPC1125 Posted: Aug 24, 2005 08:41 PM

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was there an altercation that caused the uneasiness or just bad feeling b/c of the firing?

I would still invite them both but let them decide who will come and be the bigger person and set aside the issues for your big day

Happybride2005 Posted: Aug 24, 2005 08:43 PM

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Posted by JPC1125

was there an altercation that caused the uneasiness or just bad feeling b/c of the firing?

I would still invite them both but let them decide who will come and be the bigger person and set aside the issues for your big day

there wasn't an altercation. from what i gather, she was fired/let go for her lateness

DUCKS2001 Posted: Aug 24, 2005 09:07 PM

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this is your wedding pu them at different tables and let it be.

KimberlyBride Posted: Aug 24, 2005 09:08 PM

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I agree. Let each person decide if they are coming and if both are coming seat them at different tables. But I agree that is a tough situation.

2BeAMrs. Posted: Aug 24, 2005 09:10 PM

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I agree as well. This is not your problem, it is THEIR problem. You are doing the right thing by inviting both. Stick to your guns............

Happybride2005 Posted: Aug 24, 2005 09:10 PM

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Posted by KimberlyBride

I agree. Let each person decide if they are coming and if both are coming seat them at different tables. But I agree that is a tough situation.

i would put them at different tables. no one says that they have to talk to each other. if they can't put the differences aside, then they would be acting like kids. i hope thats not sounding selfish

SomethingBlu Posted: Aug 24, 2005 09:11 PM

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Posted by Happybride2005
My boss asked me today when I have to give the final co9unt to the hall.

Hmmm is your boss iliterate? Can she not read the RSVP by date on your beautiful cards? Is the self stamped envelope too small to 'find'? I'm sorry, but why is she asking you this...she's putting you in a very uncomfortable situation and is unfairly asking you to choose. Your guest list is YOUR business, period. You shouldn't share who is coming and who isn't because it's not her wedding and she's not paying for it...

Sorry for the rant, insensitive, crazy people who have no common sense make me angry!

brooklynbridezilla Posted: Aug 24, 2005 09:13 PM

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Posted by 2BeAMrs.
This is not your problem, it is THEIR problem.

EXACTLY!

Seat then separately, and then don't worry about it. Hopefully they will act like adults!

Happybride2005 Posted: Aug 24, 2005 09:14 PM

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Posted by SomethingBlu

Posted by Happybride2005
My boss asked me today when I have to give the final co9unt to the hall.

Hmmm is your boss iliterate? Can she not read the RSVP by date on your beautiful cards?

i received there cards back. my boss was the first one we got back. i hope it works out for the best

Mrs. dleeny Posted: Aug 24, 2005 09:15 PM

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EEEK! that's one dilemma I wouldn't want to have!

I don't even know what to say except, it is your wedding! do what makes it right for you!

KimberlyBride Posted: Aug 24, 2005 09:15 PM

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Not selfish at all on your part. I do see where your boss is coming from but still she can sit at another table and not even talk/interact with her the whole evening. She is being selfish.

SomethingBlu Posted: Aug 24, 2005 09:15 PM

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Posted by Happybride2005

Posted by SomethingBlu

Posted by Happybride2005
My boss asked me today when I have to give the final co9unt to the hall.

Hmmm is your boss iliterate? Can she not read the RSVP by date on your beautiful cards?

i received there cards back. my boss was the first one we got back. i hope it works out for the best

Oh, so she RSVP'd yes and now wants to possibly back out due to the fact that someone else you invited might attend? OK, that makes me even angrier. She seems nice.

Sorry you're going through this...try to stay out of it and avoid it...because making you choose is wrong.

ETA:

Posted by Happybride2005
My boss said she really wants to come to the wedding but she doesn't want it to be awkward.

If she really wanted to go, she would and wouldn't complain. Plus, by making you choose she is making it awkward.

Happybride2005 Posted: Aug 24, 2005 09:19 PM

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blue.....thanks. wouldn't my boss feel like she's putting me in the middle im not going to stress over it

070306 Posted: Aug 24, 2005 09:33 PM

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I think it is very unfair for your boss to put you in this situation. That is not your problem. If they want to come to your wedding then they will come and not worry who else is there.

PinkSoil Posted: Aug 24, 2005 10:09 PM

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Definitely invite them both, seat them at separate tables... They are adults, they should be able to handle themselves. The day is about you, not them!

Happybride2005 Posted: Aug 25, 2005 08:28 AM

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i agree with you all!! thanks , you're the best. it really should be in issue. what would wedding planning be without a few problems 3 1/2 weeks before the big day

Blu-ize Posted: Aug 25, 2005 09:16 AM

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Posted by SomethingBlu

Posted by Happybride2005
My boss asked me today when I have to give the final co9unt to the hall.

Hmmm is your boss iliterate? Can she not read the RSVP by date on your beautiful cards? Is the self stamped envelope too small to 'find'? I'm sorry, but why is she asking you this...she's putting you in a very uncomfortable situation and is unfairly asking you to choose. Your guest list is YOUR business, period. You shouldn't share who is coming and who isn't because it's not her wedding and she's not paying for it...

Sorry for the rant, insensitive, crazy people who have no common sense make me angry!

I have to agree..your boss is not seeing the big picture.

IrishBride-05 Posted: Aug 25, 2005 09:21 AM

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I have also invited a colleague who was let go. I just thought I would leave it up to her to decide what she felt comfortable with. If she comes I will make sure not to seat her at the same table as her replacement

ANA6178 Posted: Aug 25, 2005 09:28 AM

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Posted by SomethingBlu

Posted by Happybride2005
My boss asked me today when I have to give the final co9unt to the hall.

Hmmm is your boss iliterate? Can she not read the RSVP by date on your beautiful cards? Is the self stamped envelope too small to 'find'? I'm sorry, but why is she asking you this...she's putting you in a very uncomfortable situation and is unfairly asking you to choose. Your guest list is YOUR business, period. You shouldn't share who is coming and who isn't because it's not her wedding and she's not paying for it...

Sorry for the rant, insensitive, crazy people who have no common sense make me angry!

I agree 100%. It is YOUR GUEST LIST..

Sorry you are in this situation. Like you need this added stress....