You just happen to find a phone # from the opposite sex in the trash. Now its in the trash, so thats a good thing right?
Do you question your FH/DH/significant other?
ETA:It was an old card from his gym that was left in a book that he was reading last nite. Dosent even remember how OLD! I didnt accuse or assume, just questioned it.
Laughed at me, which I didnt find funny, since he knew it would come up after he tossed it.
Now, wouldnt u just rip it up and toss it..why leave it out in the open??? MEN!
The reason why I did was because it was a business card from his gym ( he is a religious gym goer) w/ the name 'Corrie' and a # written on the corner.
Even it it might of been recent,.....I feel I have the right to ask. It wasnt and its over.
tourist
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I would ask- I'm nosy-I wouldn't accuse though, jsut ask.
nov04LIbride
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Hmm well was it like on a scrap of paper, like would have been gotten at a bar, or on a business card, like maybe work-related?
brooklynbridezilla
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Early in or relationship, I would have freaked out. But now, I would just ask- it could be someone from FH's school, a work contact, etc.
july06bride
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id ask
tray831
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Sure, I would probably start out by making a joke out of it, so they know off the bat you arent accusing them of anything.....
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booo @ you girls...
your man aint going anywhere....
its probally nothing...and when you ask him, you may feel dumb about it afterwards. then the guy will say, are you questioning me...
potintial drama...i would let it go
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Posted by MCDO15
booo @ you girls...
your man aint going anywhere....
its probally nothing...and when you ask him, you may feel dumb about it afterwards. then the guy will say, are you questioning me...
potintial drama...i would let it go
but what if was like, a realtor's number & he didn't mean to throw it our or soemthing like that.
I totally wouldnt' care if it was a chic in a bar's #, afterall it is IN the trash, but most likely it is innocent & that's what I'm curious about. Is it a job lead he isn't following up on, is it a neighbor?, etc.
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Posted by tourist
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booo @ you girls...
your man aint going anywhere....
its probally nothing...and when you ask him, you may feel dumb about it afterwards. then the guy will say, are you questioning me...
potintial drama...i would let it go
but what if was like, a realtor's number & he didn't mean to throw it our or soemthing like that.
I totally wouldnt' care if it was a chic in a bar's #, afterall it is IN the trash, but most likely it is innocent & that's what I'm curious about. Is it a job lead he isn't following up on, is it a neighbor?, etc.
point taken... but wouldnt he tell you anything that is important that he felt like sharing?
i find that some things are not important and dont even bring them up.... does that mean im hiding somthing?
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Posted by tourist
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booo @ you girls...
your man aint going anywhere....
its probally nothing...and when you ask him, you may feel dumb about it afterwards. then the guy will say, are you questioning me...
potintial drama...i would let it go
but what if was like, a realtor's number & he didn't mean to throw it our or soemthing like that.
I totally wouldnt' care if it was a chic in a bar's #, afterall it is IN the trash, but most likely it is innocent & that's what I'm curious about. Is it a job lead he isn't following up on, is it a neighbor?, etc.
point taken... but wouldnt he tell you anything that is important that he felt like sharing?
i find that some things are not important and dont even bring them up.... does that mean im hiding somthing?
no, it doesn't mean you are hiding anything, unless you care when you are asked.
In other words, I think it is find to think somethign isn't importnat, but if your SO thinks it is importnat, it is.
In our case, we can be a little disorganized, so I I always ask about papers , even if they are crumpled up & near the trash but not in it,, etc, just b/c I don't want to throw anything out that could have been useful.
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I would ask- I'm nosy-I wouldn't accuse though, jsut ask.
me too, i'm nosey as he!! and can't help it
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Even though I know I shouldn't say anything, I still would But, I'd make a joke out of it.
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I might have asked if he meant to throw it away, but would not have felt threatened or that it was suspicious in any way. If it was thrown out openly, just tossed on top of the trash, I would assume he had nothing to hide. I think I might be more worried if it was torn up or something.
My Dh doesn't throw away things easily, so I would assume he didn't want the # and probably wouldn't have bothered saying anything.
