How would/did you feel ...

... if you found out FH had contributed monetarily to your shower?

Just curious what your reaction would be.

Mine would most likely be: 'where did you get that money from? Can i have some?' considering wedding planning has totally emptied our pockets.

but in all seriousness.. if I knew that just my Bridal Party was throwing my shower and FH contributed a little (and im talking just a little) I would def. not care and would actuallly be happy he helped them. However, if he gave them too much I wouldnt like that at all. It would be like me paying for my own shower.

In my case my parents paid for it and didnt even let my bridal party give them money for it.

I would think it was VERY sweet that FH would do this make sure I had something special.

I WISH he had done this for my bachelorette party so it would have been done to my taste. Whatever....I would be grateful is the short answer.

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Posted by MrsCastanedain09

I would think it was VERY sweet that FH would do this make sure I had something special.

I WISH he had done this for my bachelorette party so it would have been done to my taste. Whatever....I would be grateful is the short answer.

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ITA 100%.

I think it would depend on the circumstances. Like, if he put in money voluntarily so that your shower could be extra nice then I’d just be grateful and think it was sweet.

But if he was asked to put in money… that might be a different story.

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Posted by Sarahgetsmarried

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Posted by MrsCastanedain09

I would think it was VERY sweet that FH would do this make sure I had something special.

I WISH he had done this for my bachelorette party so it would have been done to my taste. Whatever....I would be grateful is the short answer.

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ITA 100%.

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ITA

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Posted by chicky724

I think it would depend on the circumstances. Like, if he put in money voluntarily so that your shower could be extra nice then I’d just be grateful and think it was sweet.

But if he was asked to put in money… that might be a different story.

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ITA with this.

I paid for my whole shower myself. It didn't really matter to me who footed the bill -- I just wanted my mom, my MOH, and my SIL there (I even paid to fly her up for it). It was sooooo worth it.

I'd be happy he helped because it took the pressure off everyone else. You have a very considerate FH.

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Posted by springsandra



I'd be happy he helped because it took the pressure off everyone else. You have a very considerate FH.

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You are right ... this is my reaction now ... my initial reaction was not this, but after thinking about it some more this is what I've come to!

I have a VERY considerate FH!

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Posted by julesrbf

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Posted by springsandra



I'd be happy he helped because it took the pressure off everyone else. You have a very considerate FH.

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You are right ... this is my reaction now ... my initial reaction was not this, but after thinking about it some more this is what I've come to!

I have a VERY considerate FH!

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Yup!! I def agree with this. it probably means that he really just wanted you to be happy and didn't put the burden on someone who might have been struggling more. . .SERIOUSLY sweet!!!

I think its super sweet that he wants you to have an extra special day.

If he was aksed i would be upset

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Posted by meara

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Posted by julesrbf

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Posted by springsandra



I'd be happy he helped because it took the pressure off everyone else. You have a very considerate FH.

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You are right ... this is my reaction now ... my initial reaction was not this, but after thinking about it some more this is what I've come to!

I have a VERY considerate FH!

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Yup!! I def agree with this. it probably means that he really just wanted you to be happy and didn't put the burden on someone who might have been struggling more. . .SERIOUSLY sweet!!!

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Thank you ladies ... at first I felt hurt because I didn't realize that my girls didn't all pay ... but FH insists that he stepped in and offered to pay instead of making them pay ... just trying to make my day great and give them more money to play around with for the bach party and for their other wedding-related experiences. At first I felt sort of weird though, but now I'm just like ... my FH is sorta great, right???

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Posted by julesrbf

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Posted by meara

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Posted by springsandra



I'd be happy he helped because it took the pressure off everyone else. You have a very considerate FH.

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You are right ... this is my reaction now ... my initial reaction was not this, but after thinking about it some more this is what I've come to!

I have a VERY considerate FH!

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Yup!! I def agree with this. it probably means that he really just wanted you to be happy and didn't put the burden on someone who might have been struggling more. . .SERIOUSLY sweet!!!

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Thank you ladies ... at first I felt hurt because I didn't realize that my girls didn't all pay ... but FH insists that he stepped in and offered to pay instead of making them pay ... just trying to make my day great and give them more money to play around with for the bach party and for their other wedding-related experiences. At first I felt sort of weird though, but now I'm just like ... my FH is sorta great, right???

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Awwww. He's a keeper

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Posted by julesrbf

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Posted by meara

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Posted by springsandra



I'd be happy he helped because it took the pressure off everyone else. You have a very considerate FH.

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You are right ... this is my reaction now ... my initial reaction was not this, but after thinking about it some more this is what I've come to!

I have a VERY considerate FH!

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Yup!! I def agree with this. it probably means that he really just wanted you to be happy and didn't put the burden on someone who might have been struggling more. . .SERIOUSLY sweet!!!

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Thank you ladies ... at first I felt hurt because I didn't realize that my girls didn't all pay ... but FH insists that he stepped in and offered to pay instead of making them pay ... just trying to make my day great and give them more money to play around with for the bach party and for their other wedding-related experiences. At first I felt sort of weird though, but now I'm just like ... my FH is sorta great, right???

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He's absolutely great!! that is so thoughtful!!!!!

This kinda happened with me.
I don't know the specifics... but the shower price was high for some girls. So FH spoke to MOH and offered to throw in money. He was going to give a little over $500. When FMIL caught wind of this she wouldn't have it so she gave the money instead of him. I think it's sweet... both of them... shows where he came from.

However, his money and my money are all together... so essentually if he did give money... it would have been out of the wedding funds. But I know where he was coming from... and it was sweet of him to step in and do what he could.

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Posted by MrsCastanedain09

I would think it was VERY sweet that FH would do this make sure I had something special.

I WISH he had done this for my bachelorette party so it would have been done to my taste. Whatever....I would be grateful is the short answer.

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ITA...lets face it, showers are expensive!