I had my BP last night.... at dinner my fsil comes up to me and starts talking to me about issues she has with my FH (when he is in the hospital he doesnt always tell his family) and about the house that we are buying from her.... she was asking me when i wanted to move stuff in, and if i wanted to do this or that.... and then she proceeded to tell me that I should not help my FH pack, that his family should be incharge of moving him.... UGHHH i hate my inlaws... OH and the night before at my FH BP my brother, who is BM, planned this whole thing, and my FBIL shows up with a limo and took my FH away from the party..... throwing him his own.... mind you there was 30 people at the party..... I do not get it....
sk1nny27
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sorry that sounds like a bummer
MattsBride
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Don't let your FIL upset you! You and your FH love each other and you will be happily married soon! That's all that matters!
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what the heck???? I'm missing some info Alex...tell me more..I want to smack your in-laws almost as much as mine!
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I had my BP last night.... at dinner my fsil comes up to me and starts talking to me about issues she has with my FH (when he is in the hospital he doesnt always tell his family) and about the house that we are buying from her.... she was asking me when i wanted to move stuff in, and if i wanted to do this or that.... and then she proceeded to tell me that I should not help my FH pack, that his family should be incharge of moving him.... UGHHH i hate my inlaws... OH and the night before at my FH BP my brother, who is BM, planned this whole thing, and my FBIL shows up with a limo and took my FH away from the party..... throwing him his own.... mind you there was 30 people at the party..... I do not get it....
they sound like my fh's family, ugghhh
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what the heck???? I'm missing some info Alex...tell me more..I want to smack your in-laws almost as much as mine!
My FH has crohns disease so he is in and out of the hospital alot... His mother is VERY smothering and insists on coming to long island everytime he is sick, and all she does is stand over his bed for 4 hours a day, so we do not tell her about every visit.... this time we did and so now his sister is pissed at me.... We are also buying her house.... so at my shower she was hounding me on that, when i was out for my b'day she called me to tell me off about the fact that i didnt tell her quick enough when he was in the hospital (which i nicely responded with 'you are lucky we are even telling you') and now she discussed both at my bp.... They are also all pissed because my brothers are in the wedding party and his arent... mainly because my brothers are firefighters with him.... I mean, he is my brothers best friend, which is how i met him... Apparently his brother also hounded him at the BP about stuff.... IT is just one of those wrong time types of things I think, when their son makes his communion this year i will have to find some issue to complain about to them!
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I know Fh has Crohns and it's hard enough to deal with. Stress does not help it either. Everytime I have had a flare it was due to stress.
They need to back off and respect your wishes. I think that it's fine to tell them when he's hospitalized but they have to know that it only makes things worse for him (and you). If he's stressed, you will be too.
This is your wedding and your and FH's life. If they want to participate then they can participate. That doesn't give them a free ride to dicate to you.
What does FH say about this?
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I know Fh has Crohns and it's hard enough to deal with. Stress does not help it either. Everytime I have had a flare it was due to stress.
They need to back off and respect your wishes. I think that it's fine to tell them when he's hospitalized but they have to know that it only makes things worse for him (and you). If he's stressed, you will be too.
This is your wedding and your and FH's life. If they want to participate then they can participate. That doesn't give them a free ride to dicate to you.
What does FH say about this?
He is trying to remain calm... though he told his sister not to call my cell phone when he was in the hospital due to the nasty call.... he put a gag order on me
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Posted by Blu-ize
I know Fh has Crohns and it's hard enough to deal with. Stress does not help it either. Everytime I have had a flare it was due to stress.
They need to back off and respect your wishes. I think that it's fine to tell them when he's hospitalized but they have to know that it only makes things worse for him (and you). If he's stressed, you will be too.
This is your wedding and your and FH's life. If they want to participate then they can participate. That doesn't give them a free ride to dicate to you.
What does FH say about this?
How frustrating..I hope things get better. Your wedding is so close! How is he feeling now?
He is trying to remain calm... though he told his sister not to call my cell phone when he was in the hospital due to the nasty call.... he put a gag order on me
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Wow, does your FH know how you feel? or does he see this as a problem? I hope he does so he can set them straight.... but as for you don't worry about them you love you FH and thats should be your mail concern Enjoy the Big Day I see its really soon. Congrats
