Huge problem, please help
Ok so yesterday I receive my FH father's side of the guest list. It is a piece of paper that has 9 people (couples) on it. Some with addresses, some with phone numbers only, some that reference others on the list as a starting block for an address. Fine, I will get the addresses myself no problem.
But then there is a note explaining that I should decide who we are inviting because Aunt X isn't talking to her son and wife of said son has a restraining order against Aunt X. Now Uncle X is FFIL only living sibling so how can we not invite them. On the same note FFIL has not spoken to Uncle X since his son X got into a car accident 1.5 years ago making him a quadraplegic. Now I know this is getting confusing but Aunt X essentially told son X that he isn't worth spit now that he is a quadrapeligic and son X's wife hit her. Rightfully so, if FH mom told him he was worthless and to kill himself I would hit her also.
Needless to say Aunt X is an alcoholic and overall bad person. There is also a daughter who is normal and lovely but who also doesnt speak to Aunt X because of things that she has said to her
So I was thinking that FH and I should write a note to all members involved with our save the dates. Something to the effect of:
We love you all and would be honored to have you share in our special day. We do understand that everyone is not getting along right now. We want you to know that this day is a day of new begingings and celebration. We have invited everyone and would love you all to attend. However, if you feel that you will not be able to be joyous and celebrate with us in our love then we ask that you decline coming. Please call us if you have any questions.
Love FH and self
What do you all think, I am desperate here.
But then there is a note explaining that I should decide who we are inviting because Aunt X isn't talking to her son and wife of said son has a restraining order against Aunt X. Now Uncle X is FFIL only living sibling so how can we not invite them. On the same note FFIL has not spoken to Uncle X since his son X got into a car accident 1.5 years ago making him a quadraplegic. Now I know this is getting confusing but Aunt X essentially told son X that he isn't worth spit now that he is a quadrapeligic and son X's wife hit her. Rightfully so, if FH mom told him he was worthless and to kill himself I would hit her also.
Needless to say Aunt X is an alcoholic and overall bad person. There is also a daughter who is normal and lovely but who also doesnt speak to Aunt X because of things that she has said to her
So I was thinking that FH and I should write a note to all members involved with our save the dates. Something to the effect of:
We love you all and would be honored to have you share in our special day. We do understand that everyone is not getting along right now. We want you to know that this day is a day of new begingings and celebration. We have invited everyone and would love you all to attend. However, if you feel that you will not be able to be joyous and celebrate with us in our love then we ask that you decline coming. Please call us if you have any questions.
Love FH and self
What do you all think, I am desperate here.
