I got engaged in May and planning a wedding for September. I've been with my FH for 4 years and we waited until we were BOTH ready to get married. Financially, Emotionally and just READY, you all know that.
My sister is 4 years younger than me, dating a guy in the military, and they just got engaged on Christmas Eve. I understand that the military - you move fast, but my whole family, who I trust and love told me they were getting married in 2 years. Even my own mother told me this.
I was just talking to my cousin and he is gettin married in November. I asked him his thoughts and he said that it is gonna be tough because they're getting married in between our weddings so we just have ot be happy for them.
I am happy and I'm soo sick of my mother telling me that I'm so jealous of my sister and whatnot, but in all honesty, I really don't thin kthey are ready for it. They are just doing it bc he's going to Afganistan and moving to Cali and my dad was like 'You are not moving unless you are engaged or married' then BOOM they are engaged. Sucks.
I just feel so left out and I feel that I cant even trust my own family anymore :(
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That sucks
I will say this- FH's brother got married way too young (because he was Army) and they had a kid way too young. They have not had a change to actually grow up and learn how to act, they are 26 and still act like high schoolers. Marriage and all that comes with it is not something to rush in to. They rushed because he got better benefits if he was married!
I am so sorry that you have to deal with this...but at the same time, I think you are right.
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I am so sorry you are going through this..do let it stop you from being happy and enjoying this time..it's gott be hard but raise your head up and shrug it off because you make your day not your family...it's all about you don't let it get you down
BlushandBashful
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Aw, I'm sorry. I'm not sure if I read it correctly, but is she getting married one month after you?
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Aw, I'm sorry. I'm not sure if I read it correctly, but is she getting married one month after you?
I was wondering the same thing...
but regardless, I am sorry that you're feeling this way
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I'm sorry
Two of FH's cousins decided to get married the same month as us even though we have been engaged for two years, and they both knew when we were getting married.
Sometimes I think people don't think.
I hope that your sister and her FH have thought this through and that they arn't doing this to just move in together.
Have you talked to her about it?
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Im sorry that you are upset
I might be reading your post wrong... I read that she is getting married in 2 years? like 2 years from now? or did you mean 2 months? Im sorry I just want to understand correctly.
Sorry ok..I just read it again.. So if I have it right your family told you they are getting married in 2 years and your cousin said that they are getting married in between your weddings which means shes getting married this October?
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Posted by IrishAli
That sucks
I will say this- FH's brother got married way too young (because he was Army) and they had a kid way too young. They have not had a change to actually grow up and learn how to act, they are 26 and still act like high schoolers. Marriage and all that comes with it is not something to rush in to. They rushed because he got better benefits if he was married!
I am so sorry that you have to deal with this...but at the same time, I think you are right.
ugh! thats how I feel - they are only doing it bc of the benifits and they live on base for free..I feel like they will have ababy just so shes 'not alone' when hes gone. bad reason to have one :(
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Posted by rosatemp
I am so sorry you are going through this..do let it stop you from being happy and enjoying this time..it's gott be hard but raise your head up and shrug it off because you make your day not your family...it's all about you don't let it get you down
:) you are right. I won't let any family member or any other person for that matter ruin OUR DAY =)
ImgonnabeMrsC
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Aw, I'm sorry. I'm not sure if I read it correctly, but is she getting married one month after you?
apparently, yes.
ImgonnabeMrsC
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I'm sorry
Two of FH's cousins decided to get married the same month as us even though we have been engaged for two years, and they both knew when we were getting married.
Sometimes I think people don't think.
I hope that your sister and her FH have thought this through and that they arn't doing this to just move in together.
Have you talked to her about it?
I tried, and tried talking to my mom bc they are exasctly the same, living in a fantasy world. there is nothing wrong with it according to them. sigh.
ImgonnabeMrsC
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Im sorry that you are upset
I might be reading your post wrong... I read that she is getting married in 2 years? like 2 years from now? or did you mean 2 months? Im sorry I just want to understand correctly.
Sorry ok..I just read it again.. So if I have it right your family told you they are getting married in 2 years and your cousin said that they are getting married in between your weddings which means shes getting married this October?
orig. it was 2 years from now, which I was fine with. but then again, why couldnt he wait to propose AFTER my wedding so I wouldnt have to stress about mine AND help plan my sisters?
yes, this october. ugh.
Thats-What-She-Said
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Wow when you look back at this time years from now do you really want to remember yourself acting this way.
I'm sorry but you think he should have waited until after your wedding to propose. They didn't set a date before your wedding. They aren't stealing your thunder. He didn't propose on your wedding, or ask you to do a joint ceremony.
I was in this position but from you sister's point of view. FBIL got married in October. We were told that we could not get married before them and then got **** for planning our wedding 3 months after theirs. I'm sorry but you get 1 day as your day. The world didn't stop because you got engaged. Things happen in other lives and you should be supportive of your sister. She needs you right now.
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Wow when you look back at this time years from now do you really want to remember yourself acting this way.
I'm sorry but you think he should have waited until after your wedding to propose. They didn't set a date before your wedding. They aren't stealing your thunder. He didn't propose on your wedding, or ask you to do a joint ceremony.
I was in this position but from you sister's point of view. FBIL got married in October. We were told that we could not get married before them and then got **** for planning our wedding 3 months after theirs. I'm sorry but you get 1 day as your day. The world didn't stop because you got engaged. Things happen in other lives and you should be supportive of your sister. She needs you right now.
I never once said I was not supportive of my sister, I am very happy for her, I just have different thoughts on why they are rushing. I don't think they are ready and I have a right ot be upset. I don't think anyone is stealing my thunder, I am better than that. There is alot more to the story than what I posted which I really would rather keep private. I only posted to vent. I do understand where you are coming from though, but I did not mean it that way.
