I am a terrible person

Papillon25 Posted: Jun 13, 2007 07:39 PM

I am a terrible person

For some reason, the idea of a female officiant is bothering me. And believe me, I am not a sexist person at all.....I guess I just always pictured a man marrying us.....

anyone else feel this way?

PS we are not religious and not getting married in a church. Our next order of business is to find an officiant to marry us at the Fox Hollow.

bemyyoko Posted: Jun 13, 2007 07:44 PM

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I don't think it makes you a bad person. I can understand where you're coming from.
I was talking to a minister online for a while and when i realized they were a woman i kinda freaked out. I just wasnt expecting it.

Did you talk to the people at the Fox Hollow. They have clergy they can recomend. I have the list here too if you're interested as well as other names. FM me if you want.

catsgirl Posted: Jun 13, 2007 07:45 PM

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I CANT EVER PICTURE A WOMEN OFFICIANT EITHER, IT DOES SEEM BETTER W/ A MAN I GUESS BECAUSE THATS WHAT WERE ALL USE TO, BUT TIMES ARE A CHANGING.

TJ22908 Posted: Jun 13, 2007 07:50 PM

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Your not a terrible person me & FH feel the same way. I am not sexist either but I think its cause I always imagined a man marrying me. We are getting married at the RH and booked a male officiant so don't feel bad I feel the same way!

BNBride60 Posted: Jun 13, 2007 07:51 PM

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I do not think it makes you a bad person. But, I think it could be wonderful. My friend was married by a female judge, and she gave the most inspiring, wonderful speech/sermon/whatever you want to call it.

I'm getting married in a Catholic Church, and I'm really nervous b/c, at the last few weddings/christenings I have gone to, the priest has taken time out of his sermon to say nasty things to people there for not going to church regularly (e.g., at the Christening he said 'if you are not in a state of grace then you should leave now and just go straight to the party'). A wedding or a christening is a joyous occassion, and lots of the people in attendance are not Catholic, and I just feel like it's a terrible way to detract from the couple's/baby's special day.

Sorry for veering a little off topic - but, in the end, I think a woman officiant will be great.

Mizzdimple Posted: Jun 13, 2007 08:03 PM

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I have a weird feeling too..but more like.......weirded out then gender

AmandaLynn04 Posted: Jun 13, 2007 08:04 PM

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You're not a terrible person! I know exactly what you mean, and, I don't think it's sexist at all!

futrmrsblt Posted: Jun 13, 2007 08:12 PM

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you certainly arent' alone.. DH said no no no to a female.. BUT ... i dragged him to pastor april...
he fell in LOVE with her attitude and ideas towards our wedding.. she is super fantastic and he left there after we booked her saying thank you !
so just try it u never know

Papillon25 Posted: Jun 13, 2007 08:19 PM

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Posted by bemyyoko

I don't think it makes you a bad person. I can understand where you're coming from.
I was talking to a minister online for a while and when i realized they were a woman i kinda freaked out. I just wasnt expecting it.

Did you talk to the people at the Fox Hollow. They have clergy they can recomend. I have the list here too if you're interested as well as other names. FM me if you want.

Yeah - I have their recommendations also. We haven't made any appointments yet - we just finally did photo last night and this is our next 'vendor'.

Did you meet with any of the Fox Hollow recommendations? Who are you using?

Irishny8 Posted: Jun 13, 2007 08:20 PM

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You are definitely not a terrible person! You need to be comfortable with who is going to marry you! You don't want to be saying your vows and I Do's and not be happy!!

AS Posted: Jun 13, 2007 08:27 PM

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YOu are not a terrible person, but for me it would be very weird for a women to marry me, thats bec there are no women priest in the GO church so that will be very weird, lol if you can find a man thats great if not its OK to stick with a women

jsta76 Posted: Jun 14, 2007 12:13 AM

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Posted by MPAS

YOu are not a terrible person, but for me it would be very weird for a women to marry me, thats bec there are no women priest in the GO church so that will be very weird, lol if you can find a man thats great if not its OK to stick with a women

I completely agree

florezpeeps Posted: Jun 14, 2007 02:01 PM

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OMG! yesterday night i said to fh, 'i am not sexist but a female minister isn't for me', he turned around and said, 'ummm i want the minister to look like santa clause bc that's what i picture' !

futuremrsfab Posted: Jun 14, 2007 02:04 PM

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It doesnt make you a terrible person- you should chose whoever you want.

florezpeeps Posted: Jun 14, 2007 02:05 PM

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I should post a classified~

WANTED: MINISTER THAT RESEMBLES SANTA CLAUSE.

kellybean Posted: Jun 14, 2007 02:06 PM

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I wouldnt want a female either just seems odd to me .....maybe just used to males ..being raised catholic the priests were always male

florezpeeps Posted: Jun 14, 2007 02:07 PM

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Posted by kellybean

I wouldnt want a female either just seems odd to me .....maybe just used to males ..being raised catholic the priests were always male

i agree that definitely has to be our hang up on the female officiant

ChristineAaron08 Posted: Jun 14, 2007 03:04 PM

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Posted by Papillon25

For some reason, the idea of a female officiant is bothering me. And believe me, I am not a sexist person at all.....I guess I just always pictured a man marrying us.....

anyone else feel this way?

PS we are not religious and not getting married in a church. Our next order of business is to find an officiant to marry us at the Fox Hollow.

I am so glad you posted this b/c I though I was the only one who was against a female officiant. (and actually felt bad about it). I have no clue why. I am not against a woman being a priest or rabbi or anything like that, but I just don't want one to marry us.