i am going to killll someone. so pissssssedd. ventt

so i was on facebook yesterday, said happy bday to my cousin (my 1st cousin) whose obviously invited to the weds. then i randomly see on his friends (like the random friends that they post), that there is someone with my cousins last name so i know im related now. so i friend them and also another person with the same last name. they get back to me, hey, yeah, we are related, blah blah then...the bomb.....hopefully if im lucky enough to get invited, ill see you at the wedding!!!!!!!!!!!!!! whaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

okay, my mom is 1st cousins with this guys parents, ive only met my moms first cousins once so it was already like, ugh we have to invite them but yes, of course, i understand they are first cousins but now this....ive never ever in my life met this person, my mom met him when he was like 10 years old for one day of her life and now talks to him sometimes on email.

ok, so i think hes rude and whatnot and then i hear from the other guy who says, yeah i hear you are getting married, your mom talks about it A LOT!!!! omgggggggggggggg, wtfffff, i told my mother a million times, dont talk about the wedding if we are not inviting someone and she knew these people were clearly not invited.

ok, so its once thing if i just had to add two invites but all the frist cousins know each other and are close, every one has children and more than 1 and they all have spouses, etc. its like 30 people, no joke

i am going to killlllllllll my mother. i know, i dont know this person from a whole in the wall but now i feel retarded. yes, i know hes rude for saying something to me but the point is, im sure he wouldnt have if my mother was running her yappppp about it every single day to these people in email.

wtfffff am i gonna do. i dont wanna fight with my mother but seriuosly, this is effed up

Doooooooon't invite them. That's insane!!! Those people are SOOOOOOO freakin rude!!!!!! They just want free food/booze, I bet they wouldn't even bring a present.

so how do i answer back to this guy. just a smiley face??? thats retarded but what else can i say. i dont want to create problems. i have a very small immediate family so id like to not make waives with my extended family, ya know. either way i dont want to create problems. honestly if i could fit it into the budget i would just **** it up and invite the whole damn bunch but i have $0 dollar left so its not even a choice if i wanted to. i know me and my mother are gonna have a blow out over this. its her word against theirs. shes gonna swear she doesnt talk about it non-stop. i know she does, i figured she did even when she told me she doesnt but now its confirmed.

Ugh, I'm sorry Lorin......that's so obnoxious. I would just explain that you've already bought your invitations and are only inviting as far as your parent's first cousins........so your second cousins. And if there's any extra room, he'll be the first to know

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Posted by Lsorrent

Ugh, I'm sorry Lorin......that's so obnoxious. I would just explain that you've already bought your invitations and are only inviting as far as your parent's first cousins........so your second cousins. And if there's any extra room, he'll be the first to know

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I agree.... infact this is the rule we had to come up with bc Matt's mother's side he has about 50 second cousins, who are mostly kids and we are having a kid free wedding.

Don't totally freak if you have to blame Adolfo's family. Say you'd love to have everyone but that means everyone fro his side too and that would nearly double your guest list.

Just say it nicely and it should be fine. Don't fight with your mom now. She is excited and it won't matter anyway she can't go back in time and not say it so it isn't worth the arguement. Just calmy tell her you handles it and for her to try and be 'less excited' around people who are not invited

i sooooo wouldnt invite them .........
kinda rude too...

Honestly, I'd say they aren't expecting to be inviting. Sometimes, social interactions come up, internet or real life and I think some people are just a combination of being total idiots AND socially awkward so they just like... verbal diarhhea and out it comes!

I'm sure they aren't sitting around thinking about it.

So don't invite them. And just have a general statement of 'well we are only inviting blah blah blah' and stick with it.

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Posted by oktropical

I wouldn't invite him and if he asks either switch the subject or just tell them that you wish you could have everyone at the wedding but unfortunately you can not afford it. I suggest you have a calm talk with your mom and explain how you feel, you may feel better afterwards.

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I totally agree!

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Posted by oktropical

I wouldn't invite him and if he asks either switch the subject or just tell them that you wish you could have everyone at the wedding but unfortunately you can not afford it. I suggest you have a calm talk with your mom and explain how you feel, you may feel better afterwards.

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I agree. You really don't owe them to much of an explanation, but to not create issues within the family, I think this is a good route. Talk to your mom and let her know.

FH and I place the blame on eah other when our parents want us to invite 'family'. We simply tell them that the list has been cut multiple times, we are not even inviting friends as it is, in order to make room for family.

Good luck!