Here is the deal.....I have been engaged since christmas of 2004. We knew we werent going to get married right away so we didnt have an E-party or really do anything wedding related untill late last year. We have been together 7 years. This past weekend my older brother got engaged ( they will be together 5 years this year) I am so happy for them. I am good friends with his FW and she is one of my BMs. At the same time i am upset they are going to steal my thunder! I am having my E-party in june and we are going to see family that we ahvent seen in a while. I am afraid they are going to be more into the fact that they just got engagend than the fact that they are all there for me!! Brother FW likes attention too and they are planning a huge italian wedding ( her family is right off the boat). It is going to look like nothing net to mine. ***sigh*** I have never really been the jealous type but now that it has to do with wedding stuff i am jealous! :( sorry to ramble on but some of you must understand what i am going thru! am i being horrible by feeling this way?
TheFutureMrsM
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i totally understand what you are going through, it stinks, i have similar situations going on, but you cant compare your wedding to hers, cause you are going to have an amazing day as well, i dont think going all out makes a wedding, what makes a wedding is that everyone has a great time!!!! and Most of the all the Bride is Happy!!!
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i can understand how you must feel and its natural to feel that way. Yes your brother JUST got engaged, but I dont think that will take away anyones excitement over your engagement. Think back to when you just got engaged.. people must have been so happy and excited for you. Now youa re goingto have an eparty and you are going to get that excitement again. so think.. you get it 2 times and him only once! hehe
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I understand what you mean. My friend got engaged exactly 2 weeks after me, and as much as I want to be happy for her, at the same time I guess I do feel that I didn't really get to enjoy my own engagement and the attention that was on me for quite long enough. Petty, yes I know, but I can't help it.
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Posted by jgl
i can understand how you must feel and its natural to feel that way. Yes your brother JUST got engaged, but I dont think that will take away anyones excitement over your engagement. Think back to when you just got engaged.. people must have been so happy and excited for you. Now youa re goingto have an eparty and you are going to get that excitement again. so think.. you get it 2 times and him only once! hehe
thats a good way to look at it!! thanks! plus i am glad we decided to do it in june cause they are having theirs in august and i dont think my side of the family is going to be too thrilled to have to do this all again 2 months later lmao! not my parents, i mean the extended family lol
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good keep thinking that way!!!
yes and def make sure yours is before his.. it is only fair hehe
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im sorry that you feel that way i think you need to realize and understand that they are coming to celebrate YOU - its your EParty and they chose to come and im sure they responded way before he even got engaged
they will only steal your thunder if you let them
angl2001
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thanks girls i knew youd make me feel better!! thanks for dealing with my first rant lol
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First off your wedding is going to be the most beautiful day of your life, CLM is a gorgeous place and people will talk about it for years to come. Dont start comparing two weddings that havent taken place yet.
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We got engaged a week before FH cousin's Eparty.....we told very few people so we did not steal their thunder, those that knew and had not seen us, did not make a big deal. They knew we would have an Eparty and we would celebrate then.
Don't worry about it.....they are coming to see YOU and it is going to be an amazing day celebrating your love for your FH and his love for you......
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its not so much comparing...its just that this is the first thing I am getting! . I didnt graduate HS i Didnt have a prom and my sweet 16 was a flop!. I have dreamed about this day my whole life and i just don't want it to be taken away from me. At least it will be more about me at home anyways since i am the only girl lol
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not at all! everyone wants their own moment to shine and doesnt want to share it with anyone! I would feel the same way you are feeling. just dont invite your brother and his FW...HAHAHAHA
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not at all! everyone wants their own moment to shine and doesnt want to share it with anyone! I would feel the same way you are feeling. just dont invite your brother and his FW...HAHAHAHA
LMAO...no that wouldnt be right...after all they are both in the wedding party! but if they werent then maybe i would consider it lol!!!!!!!!!
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This is kinds long.....
I know that it feels that way-- but as the other woman (the 2nd to get engaged) I can tell you that there is nothing worse than feeling like you have to hide your engagement---
I have 3 sisters(triplets) theyre less than 2 yrs younger than I am & FH has one brother 5 yrs older than us that at the time was dating his GF for about 6 months longer than we were dating. Here's the timeline:
December- my sister gets engaged-- she & her FH were together 5 yrs at the time- they planned their eparty for June- they were moving to Washington DC in August for 5 years while her FH goes to med school- (btw my sisters and I are SO CLOSE and her moving was completely devastating to ALL of us)
February: FBIL proposes to his GF (together about 2 yrs-) they're a bit older than us- planned thier Eparty for July- set the wedding date for November of the following year
May: FH wants to propose to me (we'd been together about 15mos)-- he strategically plans it around the upcoming epartys- not wanting it to be too new, but not wanting to wait until my sister leaves knowing I would be so upset if she wasnt here- - so mid-may FH proposes
WELL, FSIL(at the time) throws a fit, says I'm stealing her thunder, and after a WHOLE LOT OF DRAMA, calls off the wedding- breaking it off with my FBIL- breaking his heart in the mean time.
For months all anyone could talk about was the wedding being called off- and our engagement was swept under the table! It was really hard for us! I even told both my FSIL & my sister that I wouldnt even WEAR my ring to their Epartys- which my sister would not allow me to do- she was just as happy for me as I was for her. I made sure to announce our engagement before my sisters party so that no one would be finding out there-- and honestly, it was ALL about her and while I had my time to shine at my eparty-- her party was not even a little about me! SOOO sorry that this is so long-- but I just wanted to share the other side!! You'll be fine & everyone will be celebrating FOR YOU!! She'll have her time!
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Thnaks for that i appreciate it!
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story of my life..be jealous..its ok..dont listen when people say silly things to make you feel better..its ok..feel how you want..the same thing is happening to me..and i was told that it was on purpose..cause who do i think i am
FH cousin is getting married in december of this year because she wants everyone to come to hers an dnot ours..SHE TOLD ME THIS EXACTLY FROM HER MOUTH!!!
i dont care anymore..whatever happens happens now..shes a 'h o e' and thats all there is to it
angl2001
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lol well i am sure they will come to yours too! its 2 months after! they have time. its not like its 2 days apart!!
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lol well i am sure they will come to yours too! its 2 months after! they have time. its not like its 2 days apart!!
my wedding is in NY and FH family is from here in kansas where i live
shes having a wedding in colorado springs where her and her FH got engaged so her family will go to that one and not ours because its only 2 months away..his whole family has to travel to ous being that he is not from NY
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i understand but trust me thats your day and everyone will treat you that way! i had a similiar situation with a friend of my getting engaged..but the focus was still on me so don't worry!
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Here is the deal.....I have been engaged since christmas of 2004. We knew we werent going to get married right away so we didnt have an E-party or really do anything wedding related untill late last year. We have been together 7 years. This past weekend my older brother got engaged ( they will be together 5 years this year) I am so happy for them. I am good friends with his FW and she is one of my BMs. At the same time i am upset they are going to steal my thunder! I am having my E-party in june and we are going to see family that we ahvent seen in a while. I am afraid they are going to be more into the fact that they just got engagend than the fact that they are all there for me!! Brother FW likes attention too and they are planning a huge italian wedding ( her family is right off the boat). It is going to look like nothing net to mine. ***sigh*** I have never really been the jealous type but now that it has to do with wedding stuff i am jealous! :( sorry to ramble on but some of you must understand what i am going thru! am i being horrible by feeling this way?
I know it's hard but please don;t let it ruin your day! I understand what you are going through. I bought my headpiece last Friday w/ my mom. We showed it to my sister who is my MOH and she said. 'hopefully just a few more weeks until I get engaged. just be prepared i'm probably going to plan my wedding a week or so before yours' you just have to shake it off.
