I am so angry

Last weekend DH went to a bachelor party for a friend of his and they went to a strip club. The wife to be's bachelorette party was the weekend before, and I couldn't go. The groom is having two bachelor parties, one on Long Island, one in A.C. I emailed a bridesmaid I was friends with and asked how the bachelorette party was since I couldn't make it, and said we should also have a party on Long Island since the guys did too, and should go to Escapes since the guys went to a strip club...


Well...Turns out the groom did not tell the bride they went to a strip club, and the bridesmaid didn't know either. So the bridesmaid tells her boyfriend (who was there but lied to the bridesmaid about going to a strip club), who calls my DH to yell at him for me telling the bridesmaid (who I assumed knew they went). So the bridesmaid tells the bride, who is now ready to kill the groom for lying to her (though she already went to a strip club in A.C.). And now EVERYONE is mad at me!

Well, the way I see it, it's all the GROOM'S fault for lying to the bride!!! What everyone else tell's their SO's (or doesn't tell their SO's) is their business. This would have never been an issue if he had just been honest with his bride.

And, do tell, is their excuse for being mad at YOU if THEY are all the ones who lied??

I could understand the other guys being mad at your DH for telling YOU the truth, just because they are a bunch of dishonest guys and felt like lying to their SOs and he didn't so it got them in trouble. But why should anyone be mad at you??

Awww...don't worry about it....all their angerness will pass. It's not your fault....the guy should never have lied about some thing like that. None of the guys should've. Relationships are based on being honest and if that guy couldn't tell his future wife this, there's gonna be problems. Better she finds out now that he holds stuff back!! There is no reason that they should be mad at your or your FH....who would know that none of these people knew ot this info...you didn't know, so don't worry!!

Marissa

just revel in the fact that you did NOTHING

Unless your FH told you not to tell - which you didnt say- then theres no reason to be angry at you

sorry people are stupid wonder if the wedding is still on ?

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Posted by JPC1125

just revel in the fact that you did NOTHING

Unless your FH told you not to tell - which you didnt say- then theres no reason to be angry at you

sorry people are stupid wonder if the wedding is still on ?

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No, DH just said when the guys got mad at him that I shouldn't assume that all men are as honest as he is with their wives/fiancees. I just assumed the girls knew since I did.

That totally sux that they are putting it on you instead of placing the REAL blame and that is with themselves for lying and the idiot wives/girlfriends for not realizing what was going down at a bachelor party

you know what....DAM* them for alll lying. Your DH was a BETTER man for telling you the truth!!! They should all feel stupid for getting caught!

Holy cow, this is so not your fault.

You didnt do anything wrong...but at least you learned your lesson with these people, and its probably better you keep them at arms length. now that you know the guys are sneaky, just know to stay out of anything you hear. FI went to a bach. party last year and told me what went on and i was disgusted, but I never talk about it with the wife, because I know I'd be blamed or branded a liar.

PS after I found out the groom 'tried' to have a private session with a stripper, I was disgusted to have to go the wedding and sit there watching him LIE through his teeth to be faithful to her....he's still cheating by the way. But its none of my business......