I am so PI$$ED off, UPDATE.....BM from )(*&!

For months I have been writing about'lisa'. Well, she is a friend I have known my whole life, our parents were friends, etc. Well, the only surviving parent left is her mom, which I still have a good friendship with. It is hard enough planning without my mom or dad. For months, Lisa has told me she is in my wedding, well tomorrow is the cut off day for the BM dreeses to be ordered. She had me leave at her house directions to the store, a picture of the dress, etc. I have been more then accomadating. I was getting the feeling she was purposely calling me when I was not home etc. Well, tonight I needed to know becuase the dresses need to be ordered tomorrow, they take 3 to 4 months to come in. I was starting to get disgusted and told Fh to call and leave a message on her machine to find out what is going on. In the meantime, she is not talking to her 40 yr. old sister and I am not allowed to leave detailed messages on the machine becuase her sister can hear them, etc. My gosh it is my wedding, I am not being a brat here, but I needed to know what was going on. Well, like I said before I needed to know by tonite, and again she was leaving me messages when I was not home, not calling me on my cell phone etc. Well, she has the nerve after all these months (16 months to be EXACT). That she is not going to be in the wedding and that she wanted to explain why.... Well, FH and I are pi$$ed off to no end. What do I do? I have known her since I was 3 yrs old, not that I was going to ask anyone else to fill in, we have 5 BM and 5 Ushers, but ***? Our parenst were best friends etc. Do I not call her? Do I call her? Do I write her a letter? I do not even want to invite her to the wedding! If she was not going to be in it, then tell me not wait until the night before!!! Opinions please!!! I am going out of my mind!

Since I asked my bridesmaids and maid of honor and matron of honor to be in my wedding I have had more issues than I can tell you. One thing i have learned is to not react hastily. I almost 'eliminated' two girls from my bridal party without even talking things out. I am SO GLAD that I didn't. I think that often, behind an uncooperative bm is a much deeper issue. Call her, go to her house, confront her on the situation. If there are all those memories there...don't let the friendship die without giving it your final shot....thats just my opinion...hope it helps but, seriously, i know how you feel...i never knew my wedding would bring out the worst in people But, i also have to say that once the air is cleared, it also brings forth the best in people!

Sometimes the people you have known longest, and think you are closest to, are the very people that let you down when you least expect it.

Weddings bring out the true colors of your friends. You'll be surprised what you find out. You'll also find that people you really didn't expect too much from come through for you with flying colors. Life's funny, huh?

I say talk to this girl, give her a chance to explain why she did what she did, but keep in mind that she may not be the friend you had hoped she was.

Good luck! I hope it all works out for you!

hugs to you It seems like this happens alot with weddings, you really do see what the person is really like.
Give her a chance to explain, but keep in mine, if she keeps avoiding you so far how is the rest of the time going to go..

sorry to hear about it
I hope things get better