i am so sick

i'm sorry guys s*ck at wedding planning...so he's really doing you a favor by not messing with your wonderful plans ... did that help? cause thats how i really feel about FH helping

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Posted by beaviss80

i'm sorry guys s*ck at wedding planning...so he's really doing you a favor by not messing with your wonderful plans ... did that help? cause thats how i really feel about FH helping

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i wholeheartedly agree.

not really. we were just about to go out to eat and he finally got the hint that i'm giving him the cold shoulder and was like whats wrong with you and i told him and he denies everything i start crying, told him to turn the car around and i locked myself in the office. at times like this, i wanna be alone. i just cant

awww, sweetie!! i happen to ABSOLUTELY understand. FH has not helped me with one SINGLE thing. i went into this knowing that he wouldn't care about every little detail, but even on the things i did get him involved in, he hasn't been interested in. not an opinion on the cake, or the honeymoon or any songs. nada. it's been frustrating. the few things i have asked of him have turned into such a production. when i asked him to get his sides guest list together, he couldn't be bothered. my mother was doing engagement announcements and he ignored my pleas to do it for over a month. finally we just didn't send the announcements to half his side. then he couldn't get the guest list in the next 8 months so we had to put off ordering invites. then when the invites did go out, a bunch that were mailed to his friends came back as wrong addresses. and when i asked him to get the correct ones, he was like 'eh forget it, they won't come'. like it was too much of an effort to get these addresses; he'd rather these people not be invited to the wedding! then there was a fight about the tuxes... no one on his side of the BP or his dad or him have gone for the fittings. they were supposed to go 2 weeks ago. but my brother, dad and nephew all did theirs. it takes 20 min!! just do it!! like he has so much else to do. we fight because he says i'm nagging him. i tell him that if he just did things the first time i asked him, i wouldn't nag. it's not as though i ask much, ya know. i asked him 3 weeks ago to ask his mom to call 2 people on his side of the family to double check about their rsvps because they responded for one but its married couples, so i wanted to make sure. did he ask her? nope. he told me i could call her and ask myself. and 2 out of his 3 GM still did not rsvp and neither did ANY of his coworkers, so i asked him to bring that up. talk to people, remind them. does he? nope!! he says i'm obsessive... and maybe i am to an extent. but as i say to him, imagine planning an entire wedding with NO help. maybe if he just did the few small things i asked, i would shut up and deal with everything else myself, like i have been GRRR
anyway, i'm sorry to vent on your post. i don't have any advice for you, unfortunately. i can't even get through my own FH's thick skull, so i certainly don't know what to do about yours. i just wanted to let you know you're not alone. there are times that i'm sooo excited and other times i just want to cry. lots of times when i get really excited, i just want to tell FH and he can't be bothered and it brings me right down. like last week, i went for the final appt at RH. he didn't come because he had to work. i came home and wanted to tell him about the menu and cake and everything and he wouldn't look up from his hockey magazine. it was heartbreaking. i can't wait for the day to get here. i know i will love it and so will he. but i'm growing tired of the planning because i have felt so alone in the entire process and it's draining. anyway, to you. i know how hard it is.

i feel bad, my FH is the same way, i know he loves me and wants to marry me, but the planning part just doesnt stick with him...

i know they dont listen, so i guess it wouldnt even be worth talking to them...feel better

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Posted by SuzanaS

I am so sorry that you are going through this, but like beaviss said, guys s*uck! I have had many a fight with the Fh over wedding planing. he says it consumes my life and gets annoyed if i talk about it....um hello? if you're getting married its kind of hard to plan without talking about it. I mean he is a great guy, he just doesn't have patience for this stuff and thinks i create extra stress on myself because i want everything to be perfect. But i am happy that he just isn't overbearing with my decisions, because i have friends who fought with thier fiancee's over table linens. no joke. So in the end i am happy its this way. he isn't like this because he doesn't care or doesn't want to marry you, he is like this because he is a guy and most guys just don't get the wedding thing. I bet 90% of them rather just elope.

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amen sister!

the thing is. im not complaining he doesnt care about linen or what bridesmaid dresses.. he wont do the major stuff. he doesnt wanna go for tuxes we have an appointment with flower michele when we come to NY at the end of october, he doesnt wanna go to that 'what do you need to meet with them for' and i mean we were trying to pick a theme for the wedding. i wrote down details for both themes (although there were 4 themes to pick from) and he says 'i dont care. pick whatever' its your ******** wedding!! pick a stupid theme already. he used to say he wanted to be involved but he doesnt. and just the fact that he seems like he doesnt care if he gets married or not. i know he's under alot of stress due to money stuff but come on, make me happy with this. this is taking up alot of my time and life right now. we ended up not really talking at all last night. i didnt even wanna look at him cause i was so upset. alot of guys i talk to that have been engaged or are engaged are so happy to marry the love of his life. he never ever seems that way when it comes to me.